Nani Uulingile Ukusambilisha Abana Pali Lesa?
“Umusambi tacila kasambilisha wakwe, lelo onse uo basambilisha bwino akaba nga kasambilisha wakwe.”—Luka 6:40.
ABAFYASHI bamona kwati tabafikapo ukusambilisha abana pali Lesa. Limbi kuti baletontonkanya ukuti tabasambilila sana nangu ukuti tabaishiba ifingi pali Lesa pa kuti bengasambilisha bana babo bwino. E cingalenga ukuti bapeele balupwa wabo nangu bashimapepo umulimo uwacindama uwa kusambilisha abana.
Nomba bushe nani uulingile ukusambilisha abana amafunde ne cine pali Lesa? Moneni ifyo Baibolo yalandapo pali ili lyashi, kabili mulinganye ifyo yalanda ku fyo abafwailisha amalyashi basanga.
Mulimo Nshi Uwa Mufyashi Umwaume?
Ifyo Baibolo isambilisha: “Mwe bashibo mwilalenga abana benu ukuti balefulwa. Ilyo mulebalela no kubakusha, mulebatungulula bwino no kubafunda nge fyo Imfumu ilefwaya.”—Abena Efese 6:4, The Bible in Current Cibemba.
Ifyo abafwailisha pa fintu basanga: Bushe busuma nshi ubo abafyashi abaume basangamo nga baba abakosa mu kupepa? Icipande icaleti Fathers’ Religious Involvement and Early Childhood Behavior, ica mu 2009, catile: “Abaume nga baliba mu cilonganino ca mapepo kuti baba abafyashi basuma. Umuntu nga aba mu cilonganino ca mapepo kuti akwata aba kumwafwako ukusambilila ifya kumutungulula no kwishiba ifya kwikala pa calo.”
Baibolo ilalanda sana pa bucindami bwa mulimo wa mwaume uwa kukusha abana no kubasambilisha. (Amapinda 4:1; Abena Kolose 3:21; AbaHebere 12:9) Bushe ili ifunde lilabomba na muno nshiku? Mu 2009 isukulu likalamba ilya University of Florida lyalembele icipande icalelanda pa fyo abafyashi abaume bengalenga abana babo ukuba. Abafwailisha amalyashi basangile ukuti abana abo bashibo bakusha balaba aba luse kabili balayumfwa ukuti balicindama. Ubutalangani bwa bana abalumendo bulacepako na bana abakashana balashikatala. E ico kanshi ifyalembwa mu Baibolo ficili filabomba na lelo line.
Ifyo Umulimo wa Mufyashi Umwanakashi Wacindama
Ifyo Baibolo isambilisha: “Wisuula amafunde ya kwa noko.”—Amapinda 1:8.
Ifyo abafwailisha pa fintu basanga: Mu 2006 icitabo cimo ica kuti Handbook of Child Psychology catile: “Casangwa ukuti mu fyalo ifingi abafyashi abanakashi balalanshanya sana na bana inshita iikalamba ukucila abafyashi abaume.” Kanshi apo abafyashi abanakashi balapoosa inshita iikalamba na bana, imilandile yabo, ne ncitilo shabo, pamo ne mibele yabo ilakuma sana imikulile ya mwana.
Abafyashi nga balebombela pamo pa kufunda abana icine pali Lesa, ninshi balepeela abana babo ifya bupe nalimo fibili. Ica ntanshi, abana kuti bakwata ishuko lya kupanga icibusa na Shibo wa ku muulu; nga baba ifibusa nankwe ninshi imyaka yabo yonse pa calo kuti baleikala bwino. Ica bubili, abana balasambilila ifyo umulume no mukashi bengabombela pamo pa kufikilisha ifyo balefwaya ukucita ifyacindama. (Abena Kolose 3:18-20) Kwena abantu bambi nabo kuti ba-afwako abafyashi ukusambilisha abana pali Lesa ne fyo Lesa afwaya ulupwa ukuba, nomba kwena abene ba mulimo bafyashi.
Bushe abafyashi balingile ukusambilisha shani abana babo? Ni nshila nshi ishisuma sana isha kusambilishishamo abana?