When giving counsel, it is important to choose the right words. The wise man Solomon said: “As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it.” (Proverbs 25:11) He may well have had in mind a beautifully engraved silver container with exquisitely carved gold apples on it. How pleasing that would be to the eye, and how much you would appreciate receiving it as a gift! In the same way, well-chosen, gracious words can have strong appeal to a person you are trying to assist.​—Ecclesiastes 12:9, 10.

As Solomon said, a word of counsel should be “spoken at the right time for it.” Timing is so important if counsel is going to be successful! It is obvious that food may not be appreciated by someone who has lost his appetite. Perhaps he has recently had a large meal, or he may be sick. Force-feeding someone who does not want to eat is neither wise nor acceptable.