Mekem Mared Blong Yu i Stanap Strong Blong Olwe
“From we God i joenem tufala olsem, man i mas no brekemaot tufala bakegen.”—MATYU 19:6.
1. ?Wanem i stampa samting we i mekem ol nambawan mared oli kamaot long medel blong ol trufala Kristin tede?
PLANTE taosen blong ol man blong Jeova tede, oli haremgud from we mared blong olgeta i gud mo i stanap strong longtaem. Be gudfala risal ya we i kamaot long plante man olsem, i no wan akseden. Ol Kristin mared, oli nambawan taem tufala evriwan i (1) respektem tingting blong God long saed blong mared mo (2) traehad blong laef folem ol advaes long Tok blong Hem. I mas olsem from we, God hem wan i stanemap fasin blong mared fastaem. Hem nao i Man ya we ‘olgeta famle long heven mo long wol oli stap tekem fasin long hem.’ (Efesas 3:14, 15) From we Jeova i save wanem i nidim blong mekem wan nambawan mared, yumi mekem i gud long yumi bakegen taem yumi folem advaes blong hem.—Aesea 48:17.
2. ?Wanem ol problem we oli save kamaot from we olgeta we oli mared oli no wantem mekem ol advaes blong Baebol i wok long mared blong olgeta?
2 Defren nao, ol man bambae oli harem nogud tumas long mared blong olgeta sipos oli no wantem mekem advaes blong Baebol i wok long mared blong olgeta. Sam man we oli gat bigfala save long bisnes ya, oli bilif se sipos i gat tri mared tede long Yunaeted Stet, samtaem biaen bambae tu long olgeta oli mekem divos. Ol Kristin tu oli no fri long ol wari mo trabol long taem ya we ‘laef blong wol ya i kam strong tumas.’ (2 Timote 3:1) Ol wari long saed blong mane mo ol hadtaem long ples blong wok i save mekem trabol long eni mared. Mo tu sam Kristin oli harem nogud tumas taem hasban no waef blong olgeta i no wantem mekem ol advaes blong Baebol i wok long laef blong hem. Wan Kristin waef i talem se, “Mi mi laekem Jeova tumas be blong 20 yia, mared blong mi i bin fulap long ol problem nomo. Hasban blong mi i tingbaot hem wan nomo mo i no wantem jenisim wan fasin nating long laef blong hem. Mi harem se mi stap kalabus.” Plante Kristin hasban mo waef oli talemaot semfala filing olsem. ?Wanem i rong? ?Mo wanem i save blokem wan mared blong i no kam olsem we i no moa gat filing mo fasin kea insaed long hem, no blong i no kam olsem we tufala i agensem tufala stret?
Mared i Blong Olwe
3, 4. (a) ?Wanem tingting blong God long saed blong mared? (b) ?From wanem fasin ya we mared i mas stap blong olwe, i stret mo i gud long yumi?
3 Nating se laef i gohed gud nomo, be olgeta we oli mared oli no stretgud olgeta. (Dutronome 32:5) From samting ya, aposol Pol i talem se ‘olgeta we oli mared oli mas gat trabol long laef blong olgeta.’ (1 Korin 7:28) Maet sam bigfala trabol i save mekem se samtaem fasin seraot no divos i kamaot. (Matyu 19:9; 1 Korin 7:12-15) Be bighaf blong ol Kristin we oli kasem trabol long mared blong olgeta, oli mekem advaes blong Pol i wok long laef blong olgeta se: ‘Woman i mas no livim man blong hem . . . mo man i mas no livim woman blong hem.’ (1 Korin 7:10, 11) Yes, God i mekem fasin blong mared blong joenem man mo woman blong olwe, taswe Jisas Kraes i talemaot se: “From we God i joenem tufala olsem, man i mas no brekemaot tufala bakegen.”—Matyu 19:6.
4 Maet i luk olsem we rul ya blong Jeova i strong tumas mo i no stret, long wan man no woman we i harem olsem se i fas long wan mared we i no gat lav long hem, be i gat rao oltaem nomo. Be i no olsem. Rul ya se mared i blong olwe, i save pusum tufala we tufala i fraetgud long God blong fesem mo traem faenem rod blong stretem ol problem blong tufala, bitim we tufala i hareap blong sakem ol responsabiliti blong tufala taem trabol i kamaot. Wan man we i bin mared bitim 20 yia i talem olsemia se: “Yu no save blokem ol trabol oltaem. Yutufala i no save glad long yutufala oltaem. Hemia nao taem we i impoten tumas blong tingting strong long promes blong mared we yu bin mekem.” Yes, ol Kristin we oli mared oli harem se oli mas mekem responsabiliti ya fastaem long fes blong Jeova God, we hem i Stampa blong mared.—Skelem Eklesiastis 5:4.
Fasin Blong Hed Blong Famle Mo Fasin Blong Stap Aninit Long Hem
5. ?Wanem sam advaes blong Pol long saed blong ol hasban mo waef?
5 Taswe taem ol problem oli kamaot, i no taem blong lukaot rod blong ronwe long olgeta, be i taem blong lukaot rod blong mekem advaes we i stap long Tok blong God i wok long fasin we i moagud. Eksampel, lukluk long tok ya blong Pol, long Efesas 5:22-25, 28, 29: ‘Yufala woman we i mared, yufala i mas ona long man blong yufala, olsem we yufala i stap ona long Masta blong yumi. From we man i hed blong woman blong hem, olsem we Kraes i hed blong kongregesen ya. Kraes i sevem kongregesen ya finis, we kongregesen ya i bodi blong hem. From samting ya, ol woman oli mas ona long man blong olgeta, long evri samting, olsem we kongregesen ya i stap ona long Kraes. Mo yufala man we i mared, yufala i mas laekem woman blong yufala tumas, olsem we Kraes i laekem kongregesen ya tumas. Taswe hem i letem laef blong hem, blong sevem kongregesen ya. Long sem fasin, man i mas laekem woman blong hem, i mas lukaotgud long hem, olsem we i stap lukaotgud long bodi blong hem nomo. Taem man i stap lukaotgud long woman blong hem, i olsem we hem i stap lukaotgud long bodi blong hem nomo. Nao i no gat man we i stap lukluk nogud long bodi blong hem, i stap spolem bodi blong hem, no gat. Ol man oli stap kakae gud blong mekem bodi blong olgeta i strong. Mo oli stap lukaotgud long bodi blong olgeta, olsem we Kraes i stap lukaotgud long kongregesen.’
6. ?Olsem wanem ol Kristin hasban oli mas defren long ol man blong wol?
6 Plante man oli no bin yusumgud paoa blong olgeta blong rul olsem hasban, mo oli bin mekem i strong tumas long waef blong olgeta. (Jenesis 3:16) Be, Pol i talem long ol Kristin hasban se oli mas stap defren long ol man blong wol, oli mas folem fasin blong Kraes, oli no mas putum ol strong rul blong stap kontrolem evri smosmol haf blong laef blong waef blong olgeta. Yumi save se Jisas i neva raf no i strong tumas. Hem i lukaot long ol man blong hem wetem ona mo respek, i talem se: “Yufala evriwan we yufala i stap hadwok tumas, yufala i stap karem ol hevi samting, yufala i kam long mi. Bambae mi mi givim spel long yufala. Yufala i mas putum yok blong mi long solda blong yufala, blong yufala i mekem wok blong mi. Mo yufala i mas lan long mi, from we mi mi wan kwaet man, tingting blong mi i stap daon. Nao bambae yufala i faenem we tingting blong yufala i gat spel.”—Matyu 11:28, 29.
7. ?Olsem wanem wan man i save soem ona long woman blong hem taem woman blong hem tu i mas wok blong kasem mane?
7 Wan Kristin hasban i mas ona long waef blong hem from we waef blong hem i no strong olsem hem. (1 Pita 3:7) Eksampel, sipos waef tu i mas wok blong kasem mane. Hasban i mas tingbaot samting ya, hem i mas givhan long woman blong hem mo kaengud long hem olsem we hem i save mekem. Plante woman oli talem se bigfala risen from wanem oli divos long hasban blong olgeta, i from we hasban i no givhan long olgeta blong lukaot long ol pikinini no haos blong olgeta. From samting ya, wan Kristin hasban i mas traehad blong givhan long waef blong hem long haos, long ol impoten rod we oli mekem ful famle i haremgud.
8. ?Fasin ya blong stap daon aninit long hasban blong olgeta, i minim wanem long ol Kristin waef?
8 Sipos hasban i stap soemaot fasin ona long waef blong hem, samting ya i mekem i moa isi long ol Kristin waef blong oli stap aninit long hasban blong olgeta. Be, samting ya i no minim se oli olsem slef we oli daon olgeta. God i talem se wan waef i no wan slef, be i blong “givhan” (“i sem mak,” futnot,) i minim se hem i stret long man blong hem. (Jenesis 2:18) Long Malakae 2:14, i tokbaot wan waef olsem we i “fren” blong man blong hem. Olsem nao, ol waef long Baebol oli haremgud from fasin we oli fri blong mekem plante samting mo mekem sam disisen. Long saed blong “wan gudfala waef,” Baebol i talem se: “Hat blong man blong hem i trastem hem.” I tru, hem i trastem waef blong hem blong mekem ol samting olsem lukaot long haos, long saed blong kakae, pem mo salem samting olsem graon no haos, mo lukaot long wan smol bisnes.—Proveb 31:10-31.
9. (a) ?Long Baebol, olsem wanem ol woman we oli fraetgud long God oli soemaot trufala fasin ona? (b) ?Wanem i save halpem wan Kristin waef tede blong i stap ona long hasban blong hem?
9 Nating se i olsem, wan waef we i fraetgud long God i luksave se hasban i hed blong hem. Eksampel, Sera “i obei long Ebraham, mo i singaot hem se ‘Masta blong mi,’ ” i no olsem wan toktok we i kaen nomo, be hem i stap soemaot trufala fasin ona. (1 Pita 3:6; Jenesis 18:12) Mo tu, hem i rere blong livim gudfala haos blong hem long taon blong Uru, blong go stap long haos tapolen wetem hasban blong hem. (Hibrus 11:8, 9) Be fasin ona i no min se wan waef i no save soemaot strong tingting blong stretem wan samting, taem i nid blong mekem. Taem Moses i no obei long loa blong God long saed blong sakomsaes, waef blong hem, Jipora, i blokem wan bigfala trabol taem hem i mekem wan samting wetem strong tingting blong stretem bisnes ya. (Eksodas 4:24-26) Wok blong waef i no blong mekem hasban blong hem nomo, we i wan sinman, i glad. Ol waef oli mas ‘ona long man blong olgeta, olsem we oli stap ona long Masta blong yumi.’ (Efesas 5:22) Taem wan Kristin waef i tingbaot blong frengud oltaem wetem God, samting ya i givhan long hem blong no lukluk long ol smol slak fasin blong hasban blong hem, mo long ol samting we maet hasban i no nafgud blong mekem, mo hasban i mas mekem sem mak long waef.
I Nidim Fasin Blong Toktokgud Tugeta—Blong Mekem Wan Gudfala Mared
10. ?Fasin ya blong toktokgud tugeta i impoten olsem wanem long wan mared?
10 Taem oli askem long wan loea we i wok long saed blong divos se wanem nao bigfala risen we i mekem tufala we i mared i seraot, hem i ansa se: “Tufala i no gat fasin blong tok tru long tufala, blong talemaot ol tingting we i stap dip long hat blong tufala, mo mekem ol samting long tufala we i soem se tufala i besfren.” Yes, i nidim fasin blong toktokgud tugeta blong mekem wan gudfala mared we i stanap strong. Olsem Baebol i talem se, “olgeta plan blong man oli save foldaon sipos oli no toktokgud tugeta.” (Proveb 15:22) Ol hasban mo waef oli nidim blong ‘frengud tugeta we tufala i trastem tufala fulwan,’ tufala i mas haremgud long fasin fren bitwin long tufala we i gat filing long hem mo i dip. (Proveb 2:17) Be, plante hasban mo waef oli faenem i had blong toktokgud tugeta, mo from samting ya, wan i harem nogud long narafala gogo kasem we kros i faerap nao i spolem fasin fren blong tufala. No tufala we i mared maet tufala i save toktok long kaen fasin long tufala, blong haedem nomo trufala fasin we, tufala i no wantem kam kolosap long tufala long saed blong filing.
11. ?Olsem wanem fasin blong hasban mo waef blong toktokgud tugeta i save kam moa gud?
11 Wan problem se, i luk olsem we ol man mo woman oli gat defren fasin blong toktok. Plante woman oli haremgud blong tokbaot ol filing, be ol man oli laekem moa blong tokbaot ol save we i gat pruf blong olgeta. Ol woman oli wantem blong soemaot filing mo givim sapot long saed blong filing, be ol man oli traem blong lukaot mo talem ol rod blong stretem wan bisnes. Be, samting we i save mekem fasin blong toktokgud tugeta i kamaot, se tufala evriwan i mas traehad blong ‘rere oltaem blong lesin, be tufala i mas no hareap blong tok. Mo tufala i mas no hareap blong kros.’ (Jemes 1:19) Yutufala i mas lukluk stret long ae blong yutufala mo rili lesingud. Askem ol kwestin wetem kaen fasin blong pulum hasban no waef blong yu blong toktok. (Skelem wetem 1 Samuel 1:8; Proveb 20:5.) Bitim we yu traem blong givim wan kwik ansa blong stretem wan problem we hasban no waef blong yu i talemaot, lesingud taem yu stap traehad blong wokem wan rod blong stretem problem ya. Mo prea tugeta wetem fasin daon, lukaot help blong God blong lidim yutufala.—Ol Sam 65:2; Rom 12:12.
12. ?Olsem wanem tufala Kristin we i mared, tufala i save mekem sua se tufala i gat taem blong spenem wetem tufala?
12 Samtaem ol wari mo ol trabol blong laef, oli save mekem se olgeta we oli mared oli gat smol taem no paoa nomo blong toktokgud tugeta. Be, sipos ol Kristin oli wantem wan mared we oli save tinghae long hem mo oli wantem lukaotgud long hem blong i no gat samting i spolem, tufala i mas stap kolosap long tufala oltaem. Tufala i nidim blong tingbaot fasin fren blong tufala olsem wan sas samting, i gudfala tumas, mo tufala i mas meksua se tufala i gat taem blong givim long mared ya mo long tufala. (Skelem Kolosi 4:5.) Samtaem, rod blong faenem taem blong toktokgud tugeta, maet i isi nomo olsem yu aotem televisin nomo. Fasin blong sidaon wanples oltaem blong dring ti no kofe tugeta, i save givhan long tufala we i mared blong gat fasin blong toktok tugeta wetem filing. Long taem blong spel olsem, oli save ‘toktokgud tugeta’ long ol defren samting long saed blong famle. (Proveb 13:10) !Mo i waes blong wokem fasin ya blong tokbaot ol smosmol samting we oli mekem kros i kamaot mo ol samting we oli no agri long hem, bifo we ol samting ya oli mekem bigfala trabol i kamaot!—Skelem Matyu 5:23, 24; Efesas 4:26.
13. (a) ?Jisas i soemaot wanem eksampel long saed blong fasin blong toktok we i isi mo i tru? (b) ?Wanem sam rod we tufala we i mared, tufala i save kam kolosap moa long tufala?
13 Wan man i talemaot se: “Plante taem i strong long mi, blong mi talemaot stret tingting blong mi mo blong rili talemaot stret filing blong mi [long waef blong mi].” Be fasin ya we man i talemaot ol filing mo tingting blong hem, i wan impoten samting blong mekem fasin fren blong tufala i kam dip moa. Tingbaot olsem wanem Jisas i fri blong toktok mo i tok tru, taem hem i stap wetem ol memba blong grup ya we bambae oli kam olsem woman blong hem. Hem i talem se: “Mi mi no moa save singaot yufala se ol man blong wok blong mi, from we man blong wok, hem i no save ol samting we masta blong hem i stap mekem. Naoia mi mi stap singaot yufala se ol fren blong mi, from we mi talemaot olgeta samting ya finis long yufala we mi harem long Papa blong mi.” (Jon 15:15) Taswe tingbaot hasban no waef blong yu olsem wan fren. Trastem hem wetem ol filing blong yu. Traehad blong talem ol isi, tru, “toktok blong soem se yu laekem hem tumas.” (Sing blong Solomon 1:2) Samtaem, fasin blong no fraet blong toktok tru tugeta i hadwok, be taem tufala evriwan i traehad, bambae tufala i save mekem plante samting blong givhan long mared blong tufala blong i stanap strong blong olwe.
Taem Tufala i No Agri Long Wan Samting
14, 15. ?Olsem wanem tufala i save blokem rao?
14 Ol tru fasin blong no agri bambae oli kamaot sam samtaem. Be i no nid blong haos blong yu i kam olsem wan ‘haos we i fulap long rao.’ (Proveb 17:1) Lukaotgud blong no tokbaot ol samting we i blong yutufala nomo we ol pikinini oli save harem, mo tingbaot ol filing blong hasban no waef blong yu. Taem Rejel i talemaot wari blong hem from we hem i no save gat pikinini mo i askem Jekob blong givim pikinini long hem, Jekob i ansa wetem kros, i se: “?Yu ting se mi mi save mekem wok blong God? !Hem nao i blokem yu blong yu no save karem pikinini!” (Jenesis 30:1, 2) Sipos ol hadtaem i kamaot insaed long famle, yu mas agensem problem ya, yu no agensem man. Long taem we yutufala i toktok tugeta yutufala nomo, blokem “tok we yu no tingtinggud long hem fastaem,” mo blokem fasin blong katem toktok blong hasban no waef blong yu.—Proveb 12:18.
15 I tru, maet yu yu save gat strong filing long saed blong wan poen we yu gat long tingting blong yu, be yu save talemaot ol filing ya long wan fasin we i no gat ‘fasin blong kros, fasin blong holem kros, mo fasin blong kros kwik. Yu mas no sakem tok blong yu i go antap, mo yu mas no tok nogud.’ (Efesas 4:31) Wan hasban i talem se, “Tokbaot ol problem blong yutufala long wan kwaet voes. Sipos wan long yutufala i stat blong mekem voes i go antap, yutufala i mas stop blong tokbaot samting ya. Gobak long hem smoltaem biaen. Statem bakegen.” Proveb 17:14 i givim gudfala advaes ya se: “I gud yu gowe bifo rao i kamaot.” Traem tokbaot ol samting ya bakegen taem kros blong yutufala i godaon.
Stap Tru Long Yutufala
16. ?From wanem fasin ya we wan i slip wetem woman no man we i no stret woman no man blong hem, i wan bigfala samting we i nogud tumas?
16 Hibrus 13:4 i talem se: “Mared i wan fasin we yufala evriwan i mas tinghae long hem. Man i mas stap tru long woman blong hem, mo woman i mas stap tru long man blong hem. God bambae i jajem boe mo gel we tufala i slip wan ples, mo bambae i jajem man we i slip wetem woman we i no woman blong hem, mo woman we i slip wetem man we i no man blong hem.” Fasin blong slip wetem woman no man we i no woman no man blong yu, i wan sin agens long God. Mo tu, bambae i spolem mared. (Jenesis 39:9) Wan woman we i givim advaes long saed blong mared i raetem se: “Taem i kam long klia ples se, wan i bin slip wetem woman no man we i no woman no man blong hem, samting ya i spolem ful famle olsem wan strong hariken, i seraotem famle, i spolemgud tras mo respek blong olgeta long famle, i mekem i nogud long ol pikinini.” Mo tu woman i save gat bel, no rabis sik long saed blong seks i save kamaot from.
17. ?Olsem wanem blong blokem no sakemaot ol tingting ya blong wantem slip wetem woman no man we i no woman no man blong yumi?
17 Samfala oli stat tingbaot blong slip wetem woman no man we i no woman no man blong olgeta, taem oli kasem ol nogud tingting blong wol long saed blong seks long ol buk, long televisin, mo long sinema. (Galesia 6:8) Be ol man we oli stadi long samting ya oli talem se, fasin ya we wan i slip wetem woman no man we i no woman no man blong hem, kolosap oltaem i kamaot i no from we hem i wantem seks be from we hem i gat tingting se hem i mas pruvum se hem i save pulum ae blong woman no man yet, no from we hem i harem se i no stap kasem inaf lav, mo i wantem moa. (Skelem wetem Proveb 7:18.) Nomata wanem risen ol man ya oli givim, wan Kristin i mas sakemaot ol nogud tingting long saed blong seks. Long trufala fasin, tokbaot ol filing blong yu wetem hasban no waef blong yu. Sipos i gat nid, lukaot help blong ol elda long kongregesen. Sipos yu mekem olsem, i save blokem yu blong no foldaon long sin. Antap moa, ol Kristin man oli nidim blong lukaotgud taem oli toktok wetem ol woman, sem mak taem ol woman oli toktok wetem ol man. Taem yu mared wetem wan man no woman finis, i agensem ol rul blong Baebol blong lukluk mo gat filing long narafala. (Job 31:1; Matyu 5:28) Ol Kristin oli mas rili lukaotgud blong no letem filing blong olgeta i kam antap, long saed blong ol man mo woman we oli wok wetem olgeta. Holem gudfala fasin fren wetem olgeta be long saed blong wok nomo.
18. ?Wanem stampa blong plante problem long saed blong seks we oli kamaot long mared, mo olsem wanem blong stretem ol problem ya?
18 Wan samting we i save lukaotgud long yu moa, hemia blong frengud long trufala fasin wetem hasban no waef blong yu. Plante man we oli stadi long saed ya, oli talem se ol problem blong mared long saed blong seks, plante taem oli no long saed blong bodi, be kolosap oltaem oli kamaot from we i no gat fasin blong toktokgud tugeta. Ol problem olsem oli no kamaot plante taem sipos hasban mo waef oli harem se oli fri blong toktokgud tugeta, mo sipos tufala i wantem slip tugeta from we tufala i laeklaekem tufala tumas, i no from we tufala i mas mekem olsem nomo.a Sipos evri samting i stret olsem, fasin blong slip tugeta i save mekem mared blong tufala i kam moagud.—1 Korin 7:2-5; 10:24.
19. ?Wanem “i save joenem olgeta samting blong oli kam wan nomo stret,” mo fasin ya i save mekem wanem i kamaot long wan mared?
19 Long Kristin kongregesen, lav nao i fasin ya we “i save joenem olgeta samting blong oli kam wan nomo stret.” Taem hasban mo waef we tufala i fraetgud long God tufala i wokem fasin lav, samting ya i save ‘givgivhan long tufala, mo taem wan long tufala i gat sam poen agens long narawan, tufala i mas fogivim tufala.’ (Kolosi 3:13, 14) Man we i gat lav we i stanap long ol stret rul, i stap traehad blong mekem i gud long ol narafala. (1 Korin 13:4-8) Wokem lav ya. Bambae i halpem yu blong mekem fasin joen blong mared i strong gud. Mekem ol advaes blong Baebol i wok long mared laef blong yu. Sipos yu mekem olsem, bambae mared blong yu i stanap strong blong olwe mo bambae i presem mo i givim ona long Jeova God.
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a Store ya “Fasin Blong Toktok Tugeta—I Bitim Fasin Blong Toktok Nomo,” we i kamaot long Wajtaoa blong Ogis 1, 1993, i soemaot olsem wanem olgeta we oli mared oli save winim ol problem long saed ya.
?Bambae Yu Yu Ansa Olsem Wanem?
◻ ?From wanem i stret we mared i blong olwe?
◻ ?Wanem tingting blong Baebol long saed blong wok blong hasban olsem hed mo fasin blong waef blong stap daon aninit long hasban blong hem?
◻ ?Olsem wanem tufala we i mared tufala i save kam moa gud long fasin ya blong toktokgud tugeta?
◻ ?Olsem wanem tufala we i mared i save stretem ol samting ya we tufala i no agri long hem, long wan Kristin fasin?
◻ ?Wanem bambae i givhan blong mekem fasin joen long mared i kam moa gud?
[Tok blong pija long pej 12]
Sipos waef tu i mas wok blong kasem mane, Kristin hasban bambae i no letem hem i wok strong tumas