5. How can you show that you are “a lover of goodness”?

⁵ If you are “a lover of goodness,” you look for the good in others and commend them for their fine qualities. You are also happy to do good for others, even going beyond what is required. (1 Thess. 2:8; see “lover of goodness” study note on Titus 1:8.) Why is this quality so important for elders? Because they use much of their valuable time to shepherd the congregation and care for assignments. (1 Pet. 5:1-3) Even so, the joy that comes from serving others far outweighs any sacrifice.​—Acts 20:35.

6. What are some ways to be “hospitable”? (Hebrews 13:2, 16; see also picture.)

⁶ You demonstrate that you are “hospitable” when you do good things for others, including those outside your circle of close friends. (1 Pet. 4:9) One reference work describes a hospitable man this way: “The door of his house​—and of his heart—​must be open to strangers.” Ask yourself, ‘What is my reputation when it comes to welcoming visitors?’ (Read Hebrews 13:2, 16.) A hospitable man shares what he can with visitors, including lowly ones of little means and hardworking servants, such as circuit overseers and visiting speakers.​—Gen. 18:2-8; Prov. 3:27; Luke 14:13, 14; Acts 16:15; Rom. 12:13.

8. What are some ways you show that you are “moderate in habits” and “self-controlled”?

⁸ If you are “moderate in habits” and “self-controlled,” you are balanced in all areas of your life. This includes avoiding extremes in eating, drinking, dress and grooming, and recreation. You are not a slave to the trends of the world. (Luke 21:34; Jas. 4:4) You are levelheaded, that is, you remain calm even when provoked. You are “not a drunkard”; nor do you have a reputation as a heavy drinker. Ask yourself, ‘Does the way I live show that I am moderate in habits and self-controlled?’

9. What is involved in being “sound in mind” and “orderly”?

⁹ If you are “sound in mind,” you carefully evaluate matters based on Bible principles. You have thought deeply about these principles, and that has given you insight and understanding. You do not jump to conclusions. Instead, you make sure that you have all the necessary facts. (Prov. 18:13) As a result, you make balanced decisions that reflect Jehovah’s thinking. If you are “orderly,” you are organized and punctual. You are known for being reliable and for following direction. These qualities will contribute to your fine reputation. Let us now discuss how to meet the Scriptural qualifications in setting a good example as a family head.

14. What is meant by “not . . . newly converted” and “loyal”?

¹⁴ A brother who qualifies as an elder is “not a newly converted man.” Although you do not have to be baptized for many years, you do need time to become a mature Christian. Before you are appointed as an elder, you must demonstrate that, like Jesus, you are humble and are content to wait on Jehovah for any assignment. (Matt. 20:23; Phil. 2:5-8) You can prove that you are “loyal” by sticking to Jehovah and his righteous standards and by following the direction given through his organization.​—1 Tim. 4:15.