ʻE Lava Ke Ke Ikuʻi ʻa e Ngaahi Palopalema ʻOku Nau Maumauʻi ha Fāmilí

 1. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi palopalema fufū ʻoku hoko ʻi he ngaahi fāmili ʻe niʻihi?

KO E motuʻi kaá naʻe toki ʻosi pē ʻa hono fufulu mo fakangingila. Ki he kau feʻaluʻakí ʻoku hā ngingila ia, ʻo meimei foʻou. Ka ʻi lalo ʻi he meʻa ʻoku hā ki tuʻá, ʻoku keina ʻe he ʻumeʻumea fakatupu maumaú ʻa e sino ʻo e meʻalelé. ʻOku meimei tatau ia mo e ngaahi fāmili ʻe niʻihi. Neongo ʻoku hā lelei ʻa e meʻa kotoa pē ki tuʻa, ko e ngaahi fofonga malimalí ʻoku fufū ai ʻa e manavahē mo e langa. ʻI ʻapi ʻi he ʻikai sio mai ki ai ha tahá ʻoku keina ai ʻe he ngaahi ʻelemēniti fakatupu maumaú ʻa e melino ʻi he fāmilí. Ko e ongo palopalema ʻe ua ʻe lava ke ne fakahoko ʻa e meʻá ni ko e maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó pea mo e fakamālohí.

 2. (a) Ko e hā ʻa e vakai ʻa e Tohitapú ʻo fekauʻaki mo hono ngāueʻaki ʻo e ngaahi inu ʻolokaholó? (e) Ko e hā ʻa e maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó?

² ʻOku ʻikai ke fakahalaiaʻi ʻe he Tohitapú ʻa hono ngāueʻaki fakafeʻunga ʻa e ngaahi inu ʻolokaholó, ka ʻokú ne fakahalaiaʻi ʻa e konaá. (Palovepi 23:​20, 21; 1 Kolinito 6:​9, 10; 1 Timote 5:23; Taitusi 2:​2, 3) Neongo ia, ko e maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó ʻoku lahi ange ia ʻi he hoko ʻo konaá; ko ha alangamahaki ia ʻoku nōfoʻi ʻi he ngaahi inu ʻolokaholó pea mole ʻa e mapuleʻi ʻa e lahi ʻo hono maʻú. ʻOku lava ke hoko ʻa e kakai lalahí ko e kau ʻolokahōlika. ʻOku fakamamahí, ʻe toe lava pē ke pehē mo e kau talavoú.

3, 4. Fakamatalaʻi ʻa e ngaahi uesia ʻe he maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó ʻa e hoa mali ʻo e tokotaha ʻolokahōliká pea ki he fānaú.

³ Naʻe fakahaaʻi fuoloa ʻe he Tohitapú ko hono ngāuekoviʻaki ʻo e ʻolokaholó ʻe lava ke ne veuki ʻa e melino ʻi he fāmilí. (Teutalonome 21:​18-21) Ko e ngaahi nunuʻa fakatupu maumau ʻo e maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó ʻoku ongoʻi ia ʻe he fāmilí kotoa. ʻE hoko nai ʻa e hoa malí ʻo femoʻuekina ʻi he ngaahi feinga ke taʻofi ʻa e inu ʻa e tokotaha ʻolokahōliká pe ke fekuki mo ʻene tōʻonga feliliuakí.a ʻOkú ne feinga ke fufū ʻa e kava mālohí, ʻo lī ia, fūfuuʻi ʻa ʻene paʻangá, pea kōlenga ke ne ʻofa ki he fāmilí, ki he moʻuí, ʻo aʻu pē ki he ʻOtuá—ka ʻoku kei inu pē ʻa e tokotaha ʻolokahōliká. ʻI he hoko ʻo toutou taʻemalava ʻa ʻene ngaahi feinga ke mapuleʻi ʻa e inu ʻa hono hoá, ʻokú ne ongoʻi feifeitamaki mo taʻefeʻunga. Te ne kamata nai ke moʻua ʻi he manavahē, ʻita, ongoʻi halaia, loto-hohaʻa, loto-moʻua, pea ʻikai fakamahuʻingaʻi-kita.

⁴ ʻOku ʻikai ke hao ʻa e fānaú mei he ngaahi nunuʻa ʻo hono maʻunimā ʻo ha mātuʻa ʻe he ʻolokaholó. ʻOku ngaohikoviʻi fakaesino ʻa e niʻihi. ʻOku fakahohaʻasi fakaefehokotaki fakasino ʻa e niʻihi kehé. ʻE aʻu nai ʻo nau tukuakiʻi pē kinautolu ki hono maʻunimā ʻo ha mātuʻa ʻe he ʻolokaholó. ʻOku faʻa maumauʻi ʻenau malava ke falala ki he niʻihi kehé ʻe he tōʻonga femaliuaki ʻa e tokotaha ʻolokahōliká. Koeʻuhi ʻoku ʻikai malava ke nau talanoa fiemālie ʻo fekauʻaki mo e meʻa ʻoku hoko ʻi ʻapí, ʻe ako nai ʻa e fānaú ke lōmia ʻenau ngaahi ongoʻí, ʻo faʻa hoko ia fakataha mo e ngaahi nunuʻa maumau fakaesino. (Palovepi 17:22) ʻE fua holo nai ʻe he fānau peheé ʻa e ʻikai falala kia kita pe fakamahuʻingaʻi-kita ko ení ʻo aʻu ai pē ki heʻenau hoko ki he tuʻunga ko e kakai lalahí.

 5. ʻE lava fēfē ke tokangaʻi ʻa e maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó, pea ko e hā ʻoku faingataʻa ai ení?

⁵ Neongo ʻoku pehē ʻe he kau maʻu mafai tokolahi ʻe ʻikai lava ke faitoʻo ʻa e maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó, ko e tokolahi tahá ʻoku nau felotoi ʻoku malava ha tuʻunga ʻo e fakaakeaké ʻi ha polokalama ʻo e fakaʻehiʻehi fakaʻaufuli. (Fakafehoanaki mo Mātiu 5:29.) Kae kehe, ko hono ʻai ha tokotaha ʻolokahōlika ke ne tali ʻa e tokoní ʻoku faingofua ange ʻa hono leaʻakí ʻi hono faí, koeʻuhi ʻokú ne angaʻaki ʻa hono fakaʻikaiʻi ʻoku ʻi ai haʻane palopalemá. Ka neongo ia, ʻi he taimi ʻoku fai ai ʻe he ngaahi mēmipa ʻo e fāmilí ha meʻa ke fekuki ai mo e founga ʻo hono uesia kinautolu ʻe hono maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó, ʻe kamata nai ai ke fakatokangaʻi ʻe he tokotaha ʻolokahōliká ʻoku ʻi ai ʻene palopalema. Ko ha toketā ʻoku taukei ʻi hono tokoniʻi ʻa e kau ʻolokahōliká mo honau ngaahi fāmilí naʻá ne pehē: “ʻOku ou fakakaukau ko e meʻa mahuʻinga tahá ko e fāmilí ke nau hokohoko atu pē ʻenau ngaahi ngāue fakaʻahó ʻi he tuʻunga lelei taha te nau malavá. ʻOku hoko ai ʻa e tokotaha ʻolokahōliká ʻo fehangahangai ʻi ha tuʻunga lahi ange mo e founga faikehekehe lahi ʻi he vahaʻa ʻo ia mo e toenga ʻo e fāmilí.”

 6. Ko e hā ʻa e matavai lelei taha ʻo e faleʻí ki he ngaahi fāmili ʻoku ʻi ai ha mēmipa ʻolokahōliká?

⁶ Kapau ʻoku ʻi ai ha tokotaha ʻolokahōlika ʻi ho fāmilí, ko e akonaki fakamānavaʻi ʻa e Tohitapú ʻe lava ke ne tokoniʻi koe ki he moʻui ʻi he founga lelei taha ʻe ala lavá. (Aisea 48:17; 2 Timote 3:​16, 17) Fakakaukau angé ki ha ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni ʻe niʻihi kuó ne tokoniʻi ʻa e ngaahi fāmilí ke fekuki lavameʻa mo e maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó.

 7. Kapau ko ha tokotaha ʻolokahōlika ha mēmipa ʻo e fāmilí, ko hai te ne fai ha fakamatala ʻo kau ki aí?

⁷ Taʻofi ʻa hono tali ʻa e tukuakiʻi kotoa pē. ʻOku pehē ʻe he Tohitapú: “Kuo pau ke taki taha fua ʻene kavenga aʻana,” pea “te tau taki taha fai ha fakamatala ki he ʻOtua maʻata.” (Kaletia 6:5; Loma 14:12) ʻE feinga nai ʻa e tokotaha ʻolokahōliká ke pehē ko e foʻui ia ʻo e ngaahi mēmipa ʻo e fāmilí. Ko e fakatātaá, te ne pehē nai: “Kapau naʻa mou failelei ange kiate au, ne ʻikai te u inu.” Kapau ʻoku hā ʻoku loto-tatau mo ia ʻa e niʻihi kehé, ʻoku nau fakalotolahiʻi ai ia ke hokohoko atu ʻa ʻene inú. Ka neongo kapau ʻoku maʻukovia kitautolu ʻi ha ngaahi tuʻunga pe ʻe ha kakai kehe, ko kitautolu kātoa—ʻo kau ai ʻa e kau ʻolokahōliká—te tau fai ha fakamatala fekauʻaki mo e meʻa ʻoku tau faí.—Fakafehoanaki mo Filipai 2:12.

 8. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi founga ʻe niʻihi ʻe tokoniʻi nai ai ʻa e tokotaha ʻolokahōliká ke ne fehangahangai mo e ngaahi nunuʻa ʻo ʻene palopalemá?

⁸ ʻOua ʻe ongoʻi kuo pau ke ke maluʻi maʻu pē ʻa e tokotaha ʻolokahōliká mei he ngaahi nunuʻa ʻo ʻene inú. Ko ha palōveepi ʻi he Tohitapú ʻo fekauʻaki mo e taha ʻoku ʻitá ʻe lava ke ngāueʻaki tatau pē ia ki he tokotaha ʻolokahōliká: “Kapau te ke ala ke [fakahaofi] ko hono fakaʻasili ia.” (Palovepi 19:19) Tuku ʻa e tokotaha ʻolokahōliká ke ne fuesia ʻa e ngaahi nunuʻa ʻo ʻene inú. Tuku ke ne fakamaʻa ʻa e fakaʻuli naʻá ne faí pe tā ki hono pule ngāué ʻi he pongipongi hili ko ia ʻo hono fai ʻo ha inú.

9, 10. Ko e hā ʻoku totonu ai ke tali ʻe he ngaahi fāmili ʻo e kau ʻolokahōliká ʻa e tokoní, pea ʻoku totonu ke nau kumi tautefito ki he tokoni ʻa hai?

⁹ Tali ʻa e tokoni mei he niʻihi kehé. ʻOku pehē ʻe he Palovepi 17:17: “Ko e kaumeʻa [moʻoní] ʻoku ne ʻofa ʻi he taimi kotoa pe; pea ko hoto [tokoua] moʻoni naʻe fanauʻi maʻa ha faingataʻa.” ʻI he taimi ʻoku ʻi ai ai ha tokotaha ʻolokahōlika ʻi ho fāmilí, ʻoku ʻi ai ʻa e faingataʻa. ʻOkú ke fiemaʻu ha tokoni. ʻOua ʻe toumoua ke falala ki he ‘ngaahi kaumeʻa moʻoní’ ki heʻenau poupoú. (Palovepi 18:24) Ko e talanoa mo e faʻahinga kehe ʻoku nau mahinoʻi ʻa e palopalemá pe kuo nau fehangahangai mo ha tuʻunga meimei tataú te ne tokonaki atu nai ai kiate koe ʻa e ngaahi fokotuʻu ʻaonga ki he meʻa ke faí pea mo e meʻa ke ʻoua ʻe faí. Kae mafamafatatau. Talanoa mo e faʻahinga ʻokú ke falala ki aí, ʻa e faʻahinga te nau maluʻi hoʻo “alea fufū.”—Palovepi 11:13.

¹⁰ Ako ke falala ki he kau mātuʻa Kalisitiané. Ko e kau mātuʻa ʻi he fakatahaʻanga Kalisitiané ʻe lava ke nau hoko ko ha matavai lahi ʻo e tokoní. Ko e kau tangata matuʻotuʻa ko ení ʻoku nau pōtoʻi ʻi he Folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá pea taukei ʻi hono ngāueʻaki ʻa hono ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoní. ʻE lava ke nau fakamoʻoniʻi ʻenau hoko ʻo “hange ha fakaū mei he matangi, mo e toitoiʻanga mei he ʻalotamaki; hange ko e ngaahi mangaʻi vai ʻi ha potu momoa, hange ko e malu ʻo ha makatuʻu kafakafa ʻi ha fonua puhengia.” (Aisea 32:​1, 2) ʻOku ʻikai ke ngata pē ʻi hono maluʻi ʻe he kau mātuʻa Kalisitiané ʻa e fakatahaʻangá fakalūkufua mei he ngaahi tākiekina fakatupu maumaú ka ʻoku nau toe fakafiemālieʻi, fakaivifoʻou, pea mahuʻingaʻia fakafoʻituitui ʻi he faʻahinga tāutaha ʻoku ʻi ai ʻenau ngaahi palopalemá. Fakaʻaongaʻi kakato ʻenau tokoní.

11, 12. Ko hai ʻokú ne tokonaki mai ʻa e tokoni lahi taha ki he ngaahi fāmili ʻo e kau ʻolokahōliká, pea ʻoku anga-fēfē hono fai ʻo e poupou ko iá?

¹¹ Hiliō he meʻa kotoa, maʻu ʻa e mālohi meia Sihova. ʻOku fakapapauʻi māfana mai ʻe he Tohitapú kiate kitautolu: “He ko e loto lavea ʻoku ofi ki ai [ʻa Sihova], pea ʻoku ne fakamoʻui ʻakinautolu ʻoku laumalie mafesi.” (Sāme 34:18) Kapau ʻokú ke ongoʻi loto-lavea pe laumālie mafesi koeʻuhi ko e ngaahi tenge ʻo e nofo mo ha mēmipa ʻolokahōlika ʻi he fāmilí, ke ke lāuʻilo ʻoku ‘ofi ʻa Sihova.’ ʻOkú ne mahinoʻi ʻa e faingataʻa ʻoku ʻi ai ʻa e tuʻunga ʻo ho fāmilí.​—1 Pita 5:​6, 7.

¹² Ko e tui ki he meʻa ʻoku folofolaʻaki ʻe Sihova ʻi heʻene Folofolá ʻe lava ke ne tokoniʻi ai koe ke ke fekuki mo e loto-moʻuá. (Sāme 130:​3, 4; Mātiu 6:​25-34; 1 Sione 3:​19, 20) Ko hono ako ʻa e Folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá pea moʻui ʻo fakatatau ki heʻene ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoní ʻokú ne fakaivia ai koe ke ke tali ʻa e tokoni ʻa e laumālie māʻoniʻoni ʻo e ʻOtuá, ʻa ia ʻe lava ke ne teuʻi koe ʻaki “ʻa e makehe atu ʻo e mafai” ke fekuki ai mo e ʻaho ʻe tahá ʻo aʻu ki he ʻaho hoko maí.—2 Kolinito 4:7.b

13. Ko e hā ha palopalema hono ua ʻokú ne maumauʻi ʻa e ngaahi fāmili lahi?

¹³ Ko e ngāuekoviʻaki ʻa e ʻolokaholó ʻe lava ke taki atu ai ki he toe palopalema ʻe taha ʻa ia ʻokú ne maumauʻi ʻa e ngaahi fāmili lahi—ko e fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí.

14. Naʻe kamata ʻanefē ʻa e fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí, pea ko e hā ʻa e tuʻunga he ʻaho ní?

¹⁴ Ko e ʻuluaki tōʻonga fakamālohi ʻi he hisitōlia ʻo e faʻahinga ʻo e tangatá ko ha hoko ʻa ha fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí naʻe kau ki ai ha ongo tautehina, ko Keini mo ʻĒpeli. (Senesi 4:8) Talu mei he taimi ko iá, mo hono fakahohaʻasi ʻa e faʻahinga ʻo e tangatá ʻe he founga kotoa pē ʻo e fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí. ʻOku ʻi ai ʻa e ngaahi husepāniti ʻoku nau tā ʻa e ngaahi uaifí, ngaahi uaifi ʻoku nau ʻohofi ʻa e ngaahi husepānití, ngaahi mātuʻa ʻoku nau haha anga-fakamamahi ʻenau fānau īkí, pea mo e fānau lalahi ʻoku nau ngaohikoviʻi ʻenau ngaahi mātuʻa taʻumotuʻá.

15. ʻOku anga-fēfē hono uesia fakaeongo ʻa e ngaahi mēmipa ʻo e fāmilí ʻe he fakamālohi ʻi ʻapí?

¹⁵ Ko e maumau ʻoku fakatupunga ʻe he fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí ʻoku aʻu ʻo toe fakalaka atu ia ʻi he ngaahi patepate fakaesinó. Naʻe pehē ʻe ha uaifi ʻe taha naʻe taaʻi: “ʻOku ʻi ai ʻa e halaia mo e mā lahi kuo pau ke ke fekuki mo ia. ʻI he lahi taha ʻo e ngaahi pongipongí, ʻokú ke loto koe ke ke nofo pē ʻi ho mohengá, ʻo fakaʻamu ko ha misi fakamanavahē pē ia naʻe hokó.” Ko e fānau ko ia ʻoku nau sio pe hokosia ʻa e fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí te nau hoko tonu nai ʻo fakamālohi ʻi heʻenau tupu hake ʻo maʻu hanau fāmili ʻonautolú.

16, 17. Ko e hā ʻa e ngaohikoviʻi fakaeongo, pea ʻoku anga-fēfē hono uesia ʻa e ngaahi mēmipa ʻo e fāmilí ʻe he meʻa ko iá?

¹⁶ Ko e fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí ʻoku ʻikai ke fakangatangata pē ia ki he ngaohikoviʻi fakaesinó. ʻOku faʻa hoko ʻa e ngaohikoviʻí ʻi he lea. ʻOku pehē ʻe he Palovepi 12:18: “ʻOku ai ha taha ko ʻene faʻa lau ʻoku hange ko e hokohokai ha heleta.” Ko e ngaahi “hokohokai” ko eni ʻoku fakamatalaʻi ʻaki ʻa e fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí ʻoku kau ai ʻa hono uiʻaki ha hingoa pea mo e kaikaila, pehē foki ki hono toutou fakaangaʻi, ngaahi tafulu ololalo, mo e ngaahi fakamanamana ʻo e fakamālohi fakaesino. Ko e ngaahi kafo ʻo e fakamālohi fakaeongó ʻoku taʻehāmai pea ʻikai ke faʻa fakatokangaʻi ia ʻe he niʻihi kehé.

¹⁷ Ko e meʻa ʻoku tautefito ʻene fakamamahí ko e tāmalaki fakaeongo ʻo ha kiʻi tama—ʻa e fakaangaʻi mo e tuku hifo hokohoko ʻa e ngaahi malava ʻa ha kiʻi tama, tuʻunga potó, pe mahuʻinga ʻi he tuʻunga ko ha tokotahá. Ko e ngaohikoviʻi pehē ʻi he leá ʻe lava ke ne fakaʻauha ʻa e laumālie ʻo ha kiʻi tama. Ko e moʻoni, ʻoku fiemaʻu ʻe he fānau kotoa pē ʻa e akonakí. Ka ʻoku fakahinohinoʻi ʻe he Tohitapú ʻa e ngaahi tamaí: “ʻOua te mou fakahohaʻasi hoʻomou fanau, naʻa faifai pea nau loto kina.”—Kolose 3:21.

18. ʻOku kamata ʻi fē ʻa e fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí, pea ko e hā ʻoku fakahaaʻi ʻe he Tohitapú ko e founga ia ke taʻofiʻakí?

¹⁸ ʻOku kamata ʻa e fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí ʻi he lotó mo e ʻatamaí; ko e founga ʻo ʻetau ngāué ʻoku kamata ia ʻi he founga ʻo ʻetau fakakaukaú. (Semisi 1:​14, 15) Ke taʻofi ʻa e fakamālohí, ʻoku fiemaʻu ʻa e tokotaha ʻokú ne fai ʻa e ngaohikoviʻí ke liliu ʻa e founga ʻo ʻene fakakaukaú. (Loma 12:2) ʻOku ala lava ia? ʻIo. ʻOku maʻu ʻe he Folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá ʻa e mālohi ke liliuʻi ʻa e kakaí. ʻE lava ke ne taʻaki fuʻu naʻa mo e ngaahi fakakaukau fakaefakaʻauha “tuʻu maʻu mālohí.” (2 Kolinito 10:​4, NW; Hepelu 4:12) Ko e ʻiloʻi totonu ʻo e Tohitapú ʻe lava ke tokoni ia ʻi hono fakatupu ha liliu fakaʻaufuli ʻi he kakaí ʻo pehē ai kuo nau ʻai ʻa e tangata foʻoú.​—Efeso 4:​22-24; Kolose 3:​8-10.

19. ʻOku totonu ke fēfē ʻa e vakai mo e tōʻongafai ʻa ha Kalisitiane ki ha hoa mali?

¹⁹ Vakai ki he hoa malí. ʻOku pehē ʻe he Folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá: “ʻOku totonu ke pehe foki ʻa e ʻofa ʻa e ngaahi husepaniti ki siʻonau ngaahi uaifi, he ko siʻonau sino kinautolu. Ko ia ʻoku ne ʻofa ki hono uaifi ʻoku ne ʻofa kiate ia.” (Efeso 5:28) ʻOku toe pehē ʻe he Tohitapú ʻoku totonu ke ʻoange ʻe ha husepāniti ki hono uaifí ʻa e “fakaabaaba . . . o tāu moe ibu vaivai.” (1 Pita 3:​7, PM) ʻOku naʻinaʻi ki he ngaahi uaifí “ke nau ʻofa ki honau ngaahi husepaniti” pea ke nau maʻu ʻa e “ʻapasia loloto” kiate kinautolu. (Taitusi 2:4; Efeso 5:33, NW) ʻOku pau ʻe ʻikai lava ha husepāniti manavahē-ʻOtua ke ne lea totonu ʻokú ne fakaʻapaʻapa moʻoni ki hono uaifí ʻo kapau ʻokú ne ngaohikoviʻi fakaesino mo fakaelea ia. Pea ʻoku ʻikai ha uaifi ʻa ia ʻoku kaila kikī ki hono husepānití, lea manuki kiate ia, pe toutou ngāhiʻi ia ʻe lava ke ne pehē ʻokú ne ʻofa moʻoni mo ʻapasia kiate ia.

20. Ko hai ʻe faifakamatala ki ai ʻa e ongo mātuʻá koeʻuhi ko ʻena fānaú, pea ko e hā ʻoku totonu ai ke ʻoua ʻe maʻu ʻe he ngaahi mātuʻá ʻa e ngaahi ʻamanekina ʻikai moʻoni mei heʻenau fānaú?

²⁰ Vakai totonu ki he fānaú. ʻOku tuha mo e fānaú, ʻio, ʻoku nau fiemaʻu, ʻa e ʻofa mo e tokanga mei heʻenau ongo mātuʻá. ʻOku ui ʻe he Folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá ʻa e fānaú “ko ha tofiʻa meia Sihova” mo ha “pale.” (Sāme 127:​3, NW) ʻOku fakafatongiaʻaki ʻa e ongo mātuʻá ʻi he ʻao ʻo Sihová ke na tokanga ki he tofiʻa ko iá. ʻOku lau ʻa e Tohitapú ʻo fekauʻaki mo e “toʻonga fakatamasiʻi” pea mo e “vale” ʻi he tuʻunga ʻo e kei tamasiʻí. (1 Kolinito 13:11; Palovepi 22:15) ʻOku ʻikai totonu ke ʻohovale ʻa e ongo mātuʻá kapau ʻokú na fetaulaki mo ha fakavalevale ʻi heʻena fānaú. Ko e fānau īkí ʻoku ʻikai ko e kakai lalahi kinautolu. ʻOku ʻikai totonu ke kounaʻi ʻe he ongo mātuʻá ʻa e meʻa lahi ange ʻi he meʻa ko ia ʻoku feʻungamālie mo e taʻumotuʻa ʻo e kiʻi tamá, ʻātakai fakafāmilí, mo e malavá.​—Sio ki he Senesi 33:​12-14.

21. Ko e hā ʻa e founga fakaʻotua ʻo e vakai ki he ongo mātuʻa taʻumotuʻá pea mo e fekuki mo kinauá?

²¹ Vakai ki he ngaahi mātuʻa taʻumotuʻá. ʻOku pehē ʻe he Livitiko 19:32: “Te ke tuʻu ki ʻolunga ʻi he ʻao ʻo e ʻuluhinā, pea te ke fakaʻapaʻapa kiate ia ʻoku motuʻa.” Ko ia, ʻoku fakaʻaiʻai ʻe he Lao ʻa e ʻOtuá ʻa e ʻapasia pea mo ha tokanga māʻolunga ki he kau taʻumotuʻá. ʻE hoko nai eni ko ha pole ʻi he taimi ʻoku hā ngali fuʻu fakakouna ai ʻa e mātuʻa taʻumotuʻá pe ʻoku puke pea mahalo ʻoku ʻikai te ne ngaue pe vave ʻa ʻene fakakaukaú. Neongo ia, ʻoku fakamanatu mai ki he fānaú ke nau “fai ʻa e totongi ki heʻenau matuʻa.” (1 Timote 5:4) ʻE ʻuhinga ení ko e tōʻongafai kiate kinaua ʻaki ʻa e fakangeingeia mo e ʻapasia, mahalo ʻe aʻu ki he tokonaki fakapaʻanga kiate kinaua. Ko hono ngaohikoviʻi fakaesino ʻa e ngaahi mātuʻa taʻumotuʻá pe ʻi ha founga kehe ʻoku fepaki fakaʻaufuli ia mo e founga ʻoku tala mai ʻe he Tohitapú ke tau ngāueʻakí.

22. Ko e hā ha ʻulungaanga tefito ki hono ikuʻi ʻa e fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí, pea ʻe lava fēfē ke ngāueʻi ia?

²² Fakatupulekina ʻa e mapuleʻi-kitá. ʻOku pehē ʻe he Palovepi 29:11: “ʻOku aʻau ki tuʻa ʻe he vale ʻene ʻita kotoa: ka ko e poto ʻoku ne taofi haʻána mei loki, ʻo fakamomoko ki ai.” ʻE lava fēfē ke ke mapuleʻi ho laumālié? ʻI ha ʻikai tuku ke langa hake ʻi loto ʻa e ongoʻi feifeitamakí, ngāue fakavavevave ke fakaleleiʻi ʻa e ngaahi faingataʻa ʻoku malanga haké. (Efeso 4:​26, 27) Mavahe mei he feituʻu ko iá kapau ʻokú ke ongoʻi ʻe mole ai ʻa hoʻo mapuleʻí. Lotu ʻo kole ʻa e laumālie māʻoniʻoni ʻo e ʻOtuá ke ne fakatupu ʻiate koe ʻa e mapuleʻi-kitá. (Kaletia 5:​22, 23) Ko e luelue ʻo ʻevá pe kau ʻi ha fakamālohi sinó ʻe tokoni nai ia kiate koe ke ke mapuleʻi ai ʻa hoʻo ngaahi ongoʻí. (Palovepi 17:​14, 27) Feinga ke ke “fakatotoka ki he ʻita.”—Palovepi 14:29.

23. Ko e hā nai ʻe hokó kapau ʻoku toutou tō mo taʻefakatomala ha mēmipa ʻo e fakatahaʻanga Kalisitiané ki he ʻita fakamālohí, ʻo kau nai ai ʻa hono ngaohikoviʻi fakaesino ʻa hono fāmilí?

²³ ʻOku fokotuʻu ʻe he Tohitapú ʻi he lotolotonga ʻo e ngaahi ngāue ʻoku fakahalaiaʻi ʻe he ʻOtuá ʻa e “fetāufehiʻaʻaki, ko e fetuʻusi, . . . ko e feʻiteʻitani” pea fakamatalaʻi ai “ko e kakai fai meʻa pehe, ʻe ʻikai hanau tofiʻa ʻi he puleʻanga ʻo e ʻOtua.” (Kaletia 5:​19-21) Ko ia ai, ko ha taha pē ʻokú ne taukaveʻi ko ha Kalisitiane ia ʻa ia ʻoku toutou tō mo taʻefakatomala ki he ʻita fakamālohí, mahalo ʻo kau ai hono ngaohikoviʻi fakaesino ʻo e hoa malí pe fānaú, ʻe lava ke tuʻusi ia mei he fakatahaʻanga Kalisitiané. (Fakafehoanaki mo 2 Sione 9, 10.) ʻI he foungá ni ʻoku tauhi ai ʻa e fakatahaʻangá ke maʻa mei he faʻahinga ʻoku nau tōʻongaʻaki ʻa e ngaohikoviʻí.​—1 Kolinito 5:​6, 7; Kaletia 5:9.

24. (a) ʻE anga-fēfē nai ʻa e fili ʻe he ngaahi hoa mali ʻoku ngaohikoviʻí ʻa e meʻa ke nau faí? (e) ʻE anga-fēfē nai ʻa e poupou ʻa e ngaahi kaumeʻa mo e kau mātuʻa tokangá ki ha hoa mali ʻoku ngaohikoviʻi, ka ko e hā ʻoku totonu ke ʻoua te nau faí?

²⁴ Fēfē ʻa e kau Kalisitiane ʻa ia ʻoku lolotonga tā ʻe ha hoa mali tōʻonga ngaohikoviʻi ʻa ia ʻoku ʻikai te ne fakahāhā ha fakaʻilonga ʻo e liliú? Kuo fili ʻa e niʻihi ke nofo pē mo e hoa mali tōʻonga ngaohikoviʻí ʻi ha ngaahi ʻuhinga. Kuo fili ʻa e niʻihi ke nau mavahe, ʻi he ongoʻi ko ʻenau moʻuilelei fakaesinó, fakaʻatamaí, mo fakalaumālié—naʻa mo ʻenau moʻuí nai—ʻoku ʻi ha tuʻunga fakatuʻutāmaki. Ko e fili ʻa ha tokotaha maʻukovia ʻi he fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí ʻo ʻene meʻa ke fai ʻi he ngaahi tuʻunga ko ení ko ha fili fakafoʻituitui ia ʻaʻana ʻi he ʻao ʻo Sihová. (1 Kolinito 7:​10, 11) ʻE fakaʻamu nai ʻa e ngaahi kaumeʻá, ngaahi kāingá, pe kau mātuʻa Kalisitiané ʻi ha ʻuhinga lelei ke fai atu ha tokoni pe faleʻi, ka ʻoku ʻikai totonu ke nau fai ha tenge ki ha tokotaha maʻukovia ke ne fou ʻi ha ʻalunga tefito ʻo ha tōʻonga. Ko e fili ia ʻaʻana pe ko ia ke ne fai.​—Loma 14:4; Kaletia 6:5.

25. Ko e hā ʻa e taumuʻa ʻa Sihova ki he fāmilí?

²⁵ ʻI he taimi naʻe fakatahaʻi ai ʻe Sihova ʻa ʻĀtama mo ʻIvi ʻi he nofo malí, naʻe ʻikai ʻaupito te ne fakataumuʻa ke hoko ʻa e ngaahi fāmilí ʻo keina ʻe he ngaahi palopalema fakatupu maumaú ʻo hangē ko e maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó pe fakamālohí. (Efeso 3:​14, 15) Ko e fāmilí naʻe fiemaʻu ke hoko ia ko ha feituʻu ʻe lakalakaimonū ai ʻa e ʻofá mo e melinó pea ʻe tokangaʻi ai ʻa e ngaahi fiemaʻu fakaʻatamai, fakaeongo, mo e fakalaumālie ʻa e mēmipa taki taha. Kae kehe, ʻi hono fakahū mai ʻa e angahalá, naʻe fakaʻau ke kovi vave leva ai ʻa e moʻui fakafāmilí.​—Fakafehoanaki mo Koheleti 8:9.

26. Ko e hā ʻa e kahaʻu ʻoku fakatatali mai ki he faʻahinga ʻoku nau feinga ke moʻui ʻo fakatatau ki he ngaahi fiemaʻu ʻa Sihová?

²⁶ ʻOku fakafiefiá, he kuo ʻikai liʻaki ʻe Sihova ʻa ʻene taumuʻa ki he fāmilí. ʻOkú ne talaʻofa ke fakahoko mai ha māmani foʻou melino ʻa ia ʻe “nofo nonga pe [ai ʻa e kakaí], ʻo ʻikai ha taha te nau ilifia ki ai.” (Isikeli 34:28) ʻI he taimi ko iá, ko e maʻunimā ʻe he ʻolokaholó, fakamālohi ʻi he ʻapí, pea mo e ngaahi palopalema kehe kotoa pē ʻoku nau maumauʻi ʻa e ngaahi fāmili ʻi he ʻaho ní ʻe hoko pē ia ko e ngaahi meʻa ʻo e kuohilí. ʻE malimali ʻa e kakaí, ʻo ʻikai koeʻuhí ke fufū ʻa e manavaheé mo e langá, ka koeʻuhi ʻoku nau maʻu ʻa e “fefiefiaʻi ʻi he melino lahi.”—Sāme 37:11.