Tuli ki he Melino Fakaʻotuá ʻi he Moʻui Fakafāmilí
“Tuku kia Sihova, ʻa e ngaahi famili ʻo e ngaahi faʻahinga, tuku kia Sihova ʻa e kololia mo e malohinga.”—SĀME 96:7.
1. Ko e hā ʻa e faʻahinga kamataʻanga naʻe fokotuʻu ai ʻe Sihova ʻa e moʻui fakafāmilí?
NAʻE fokotuʻu ʻe Sihova ʻa e moʻui fakafāmilí ki ha kamataʻanga melino mo fiefia ʻi he taimi naʻá ne fakatahaʻi ai ʻa e ʻuluaki tangatá mo e ʻuluaki fefiné ʻi he nofo malí. Ko hono moʻoní, naʻe fiefia ʻaupito ʻa ʻĀtama ʻo ne fakahaaʻi ʻa ʻene fiefiá ʻi he fuofua maau naʻe hikí: “Ko e fai ko eni ko e hui mei hoto hui, mo e kakano mei hoto kakano: ʻe fakahingoa eni ko e Fefine, koeʻuhi naʻe toʻo ia mei he Tangata.”—Senesi 2:23.
2. Ko e hā naʻe ʻi he fakakaukau ʻa e ʻOtuá ki he nofo malí ʻo tānaki atu ki hono ʻomai ki heʻene fānau fakaetangatá ʻa e fiefiá?
2 ʻI he taimi naʻe fokotuʻu ai ʻe he ʻOtuá ʻa e nofo malí pea mo e fokotuʻutuʻu ki he fāmilí, naʻe lahi ange ʻa e meʻa naʻá ne fakakaukauʻí ʻo ʻikai ko hono ʻomai pē ʻa e fiefiá ki heʻene fānau fakaetangatá. Naʻá ne fiemaʻu ke nau fai hono finangaló. Naʻe folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá ki he ʻuluaki ongo mātuʻá: “Mo fakatupu, mo fakatokolahi, mo fakafonu ʻa mamani, pea ikuna ia: pea mo pule ki he ika ʻo e tahi, mo e manupuna ʻo e langi, pea mo e meʻa moʻui kotoa pe ʻoku totolo ʻi he fonua.” (Senesi 1:28) Ko ha ngāue ʻe fakapaleʻi moʻoni. He fiefia lahi ē ne mei maʻu ʻe ʻĀtama, ʻIvi, pea mo ʻena fānaú ʻi he kahaʻú kapau naʻe talangofua ʻa e ʻuluaki ongo meʻa malí ʻo fai ʻa e finangalo ʻo Sihová!
3. Ko e hā ʻoku fiemaʻu ki he ngaahi fāmilí kae moʻui ʻaki ʻa e anga-līʻoa fakaʻotuá?
3 Neongo ia, naʻa mo e ʻahó ni, ʻoku fiefia lahi taha ʻa e ngaahi fāmilí ʻi he taimi ʻoku nau ngāue fakataha ai ke fai ʻa e finangalo ʻo e ʻOtuá. Pea ko ha ngaahi ʻamanaki fisifisimuʻa ē ʻoku maʻu ʻe he ngaahi fāmili talangofua peheé! Naʻe tohi ʻe he ʻaposetolo ko Paulá: “Koe aga faka-Otua oku aoga ia ki he mea kotoabe, oku i ai ae talaofa oe moui ko eni, bea mo ia e hoko mai.” (1 Timote 4:8, PM) Ko e ngaahi fāmili ʻoku moʻui ʻaki ʻa e anga-līʻoa fakaʻotua moʻoní ʻoku nau muimui ki he ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni ʻo e Folofola ʻa Sihová pea fai hono finangaló. ʻOku nau tuli ki he melino fakaʻotuá pea ʻoku nau maʻu ai ʻa e fiefia ʻi he “moui ko eni.”
Kuo Matuʻutāmaki ʻa e Moʻui Fakafāmilí
4, 5. Ko e hā ʻoku lava ai ke pehē ko e moʻui fakafāmilí ʻoku lolotonga matuʻutāmaki ʻi māmani lahi?
4 Ko hono moʻoní, ʻoku ʻikai te tau maʻu ha melino mo ha fiefia ʻi he fāmili kotoa pē. ʻI he lave ki ha fakamatala naʻe fai ʻe ha kautaha temokalafi naʻe ui ko e Fakataha ki he Tokolahi ʻo e Fonuá, ʻoku fakahā ʻe he The New York Times: “Tatau pē ʻi he ngaahi fonua tuʻumālié mo e ngaahi fonua masivá, ʻoku inumia ʻe he faʻunga ʻo e moʻui fakafāmilí ʻa e ngaahi liliu lahi ʻaupito.” Ko e tokotaha fatu ʻo e fakamatalá ni naʻe lave ki ai ʻokú ne pehē: “Ko e foʻi fakakaukau ko ia ko e fāmilí ko ha foʻi ʻiuniti tuʻumaʻu mo maʻumaʻuluta ʻa ia ʻoku ngāue ai ʻa e tamaí ko ha tokotaha tokonaki fakaʻikonōmika pea ngāue ʻa e faʻeé ko ha tokotaha tokanga-fakaeongó ko ha foʻi fananga ia. Ko hono moʻoní, ko e ngaahi ʻalunga angamaheni ʻo hangē ko e faʻē ʻikai malí, tupulaki ʻa e tuʻunga ʻo e vete malí, [mo e] ngaahi fāmili iiki angé . . . ʻoku hoko ia ʻi māmani lahi.” Koeʻuhi ko e ngaahi ʻalunga peheé, ʻoku laui miliona ai ʻa e ngaahi fāmili ʻoku ʻikai ke tuʻumaʻu, melino, mo fiefia, pea ko e tokolahi ʻoku movete. ʻI Sipeini naʻe ʻalu hake ai ʻa e tuʻunga ʻo e vete malí ki he 1 mei he nofo mali ʻe 8 ʻi he kamata ʻa e hongofuluʻi taʻu fakaʻosi ʻo e senituli hono 20—ko ha mahiki lahi hake ia mei he 1 ʻi he 100 ʻi he taʻu pē ʻe 25 ki muʻa aí. Kuo līpooti mai ʻa ʻIngilani ʻokú ne maʻu ʻa e taha ʻo e ngaahi tuʻunga māʻolunga taha ʻo e vete malí ʻi ʻIulopé—ko e 4 mei he nofo mali ʻe 10. Kuo toe sio ʻa e fonua ko iá ʻi ha tupu fakafokifā ʻi he tokolahi ʻo e ngaahi fāmili ʻoku mātuʻa taʻehoá.
5 ʻOku haá ko e kakai ia ʻe niʻihi ʻoku ʻikai te nau kei faʻa tatali ke toki fai ha vete mali. Kuo ʻaukolo ʻa e tokolahi ia ki he “Fale Toputapu ki he Motuhi ʻa e Fekauʻakí” ofi ki Tōkiō, Siapani. Ko e temipale Sinitō ko ʻení ʻoku tali ai ʻa e ngaahi kole ke vete malí pea mo hono motuhi ʻo e ngaahi vā taʻetoefiemaʻu kehé. Ko e tokotaha lotu taki taha te ne tohi ʻene kolé ʻi ha lauʻi papa manifi, ʻo tautau ia ʻi he ʻā ʻo e fale toputapú, pea lotu ke maʻu ha tali. ʻOku pehē ʻe ha nusipepa Tōkiō ko e taimi ko ia naʻe fokotuʻu ai ʻa e fale toputapú ni ʻi he meimei senituli ʻe taha kuo maliu atú, “ko e ngaahi uaifi ʻo e kau pisinisi fakalotofonua tuʻumālié naʻa nau hiki ʻa e ngaahi lotu ʻo kole ke tukuange ʻe honau ngaahi husepānití honau ngaahi ʻofaʻangá ka nau foki mai ā kiate kinautolu.” Kae kehe, ʻi he ʻahó ni, ko e lahi taha ʻo e ngaahi kolé ia ki ha vete mali, ʻikai ki ha fakalelei. ʻOku ʻikai toe fehuʻia, ʻoku matuʻutāmaki ʻa e moʻui fakafāmilí ʻi he māmaní takatakai. ʻOku totonu ke fakaʻohovale ʻeni ki he kau Kalisitiané? ʻIkai, koeʻuhi ʻoku ʻomai ʻe he Tohitapú kiate kitautolu ʻa e fakamaama ki he tuʻunga tauhaʻa ʻoku lolotonga ʻi ai ʻa e fāmilí.
Ko e Hā ʻOku ʻi he Tuʻunga Tauhaʻa Ai ʻa e Fāmilí?
6. Ko e hā ʻa e kaunga ʻa e 1 Sione 5:19 ki he tuʻunga tauhaʻa ʻoku ʻi ai ʻa e fāmilí he ʻaho ní?
6 Ko e ʻuhinga ʻe taha ʻoku ʻi he tuʻunga tauhaʻa ai ʻa e fāmilí he ʻaho ní: “Ko hono kotoa ʻo mamani ʻoku ʻi he nima ʻo e Fili.” (1 Sione 5:19) Ko e hā ʻoku lava ke tau ʻamanekina mei he filí, ʻa Sētane ko e Tēvoló? Ko ha tokotaha loi taʻetāu kovi ia. (Sione 8:44) Tā neʻineʻi ke fai taʻefakanānā ʻe hono māmaní ʻa e kākaá mo e ʻulungaanga taʻetāú, ʻo mātuʻaki fakatupu maumau ia ki he moʻui fakafāmilí! ʻI tuʻa ʻi he kautaha ʻa e ʻOtuá, ʻoku maluʻaki ai ʻa e tākiekina fakasētané ke ne fakaʻauha ʻa e fokotuʻutuʻu ʻa Sihova ki he nofo malí pea mo ʻomai ai ha ngataʻanga ki he moʻui fakafāmili melinó.
7. ʻOku anga-fēfē hono uesia ʻa e ngaahi fāmilí ʻe he ngaahi anga ʻoku fakahāhā ʻe he kakai tokolahi ʻi he ngaahi ʻaho fakaʻosí ni?
7 Ko e toe ʻuhinga ʻe taha ki he ngaahi palopalema fakafāmili ʻokú ne lolotonga fakamamahiʻi ʻa e faʻahinga ʻo e tangatá ʻoku fakahaaʻi ia ʻi he 2 Timote 3:1-5. ʻOku fakahaaʻi ʻe he ngaahi lea fakaekikite ʻa Paula ʻoku hiki aí ʻoku tau lolotonga moʻui ʻi he “kuonga fakamui.” Heʻikai lava ke melino mo fiefia ʻa e ngaahi fāmilí kapau ko honau ngaahi mēmipá te nau “ʻofa kiate kinautolu pe, te nau ʻofa ki he paʻanga, te nau fielahi, te nau angataʻetokaʻi, te nau lea fieʻotua, te nau talangataʻa ki he matuʻa; ko e kau taʻehounga, ko e kau angataʻemolumalu, ko e kau taʻeʻofa-ki-hoʻota, ko e kau taʻefakamolemole, ko e kau fakakovi, ko e kau taʻefakamaʻumaʻu, ko e kau angafakamanu, ko e kau taʻeʻofa ki he lelei, ko e kau lavaki, ko e kau ʻohonoa, ko e kau loto ʻaoʻaofia ʻi he ʻafungi, ko e kau ʻofa ki he malie ʻo ʻikai ʻofa ki he ʻOtua, ko e kakai ʻoku maʻu ʻa e ngeʻesi ʻo e lotu, ka kuo nau liʻaki hono kakano.” Heʻikai lava ke fiefia kakato ha fāmili ia ʻo kapau ko ha taha pē ʻo hono kau mēmipá ʻoku taʻeʻofa-ki-hoʻota pe ʻoku angataʻemolumalu. ʻE lava ke melino fēfē ʻa e moʻui fakafāmilí kapau ʻoku ʻi ai ha taha ia ʻi he fāmilí ʻoku anga-fakamanu mo taʻefakamolemole? Ko e toe kovi angé, ʻe lava fēfē ke ʻi ai ha melino mo ha fiefia kapau ko e ngaahi mēmipa ia ʻo e fāmilí ko e kau ʻofa ki he mālié ʻo ʻikai ʻofa ki he ʻOtuá? Ko e ngaahi anga ia ʻo e kakai ʻi he māmani ko ʻeni ʻoku puleʻi ʻe Sētané. Tā neʻineʻi ke maʻungataʻa ʻa e fāmili fiefiá ʻi he ngaahi ʻaho fakaʻosí ni!
8, 9. Ko e hā ʻa e uesia ʻoku lava ke fai ʻe he ʻulungaanga ʻo e fānaú ki he fiefia ʻa e fāmilí?
8 Ko e toe ʻuhinga ʻe taha ʻoku ʻikai ai ke ʻi ai ʻa e melinó mo e fiefiá ʻi he ngaahi fāmili lahi ko e ʻulungaanga kovi ʻa e fānaú. ʻI he taimi naʻe tala ai ki muʻa ʻe Paula ʻa e ngaahi tuʻunga ʻe ʻi he ngaahi ʻaho fakaʻosí, naʻá ne kikiteʻi ko e tokolahi ʻo e fānaú te nau talangataʻa ki he mātuʻá. Kapau ko ha tokotaha kei siʻi koe, ʻoku tokoni ho ʻulungaangá ke ʻai ho fāmilí ke melino mo fiefia?
9 ʻOku ʻi ai ʻa e fānau ʻe niʻihi ʻoku ʻikai ke faʻifaʻitakiʻanga lelei ʻi he ʻulungaangá. Hangē ko ʻení, naʻe fai ʻe ha kiʻi tamasiʻi ʻa e tohi fakalotomamahi ko ʻení ki heʻene tamaí: “Kapau heʻikai te ke ʻave au ki Alexandria heʻikai te u fai atu ha tohi kiate koe, pe lea atu kiate koe, pe lea atu nofo ā kiate koe, pea kapau te ke ʻalu koe ki Alexandria heʻikai te u puke ho nimá pe toe fiefeʻiloaki mo koe. Ko e meʻa ʻeni ʻe hokó ʻo kapau heʻikai te ke ʻave au . . . Ka ʻoku ou kole atu, ke ke fakafolau mai haʻaku [haʻape]. Kapau heʻikai te ke fai ia, heʻikai te u kai pea heʻikai te u inu. Ko ia ē!” ʻOku ongo ngali fakaeonopooni ia? Sai, ko e tohi ko iá mei ha kiʻi tamasiʻi ki heʻene tamaí naʻe fai ia ʻi ʻIsipite ʻo e kuonga muʻá ʻi he taʻu ʻe 2,000 tupu kuo maliu atú.
10. ʻE lava fēfē ke tokoni ʻa e faʻahinga iiki angé ki honau ngaahi fāmilí ke tuli ki he melino fakaʻotuá?
10 Ko e fakakaukau ʻa e kiʻi talavou ʻIsipite ko iá naʻe ʻikai tokoni ia ki he melino ʻa e fāmilí. Ko e moʻoni, ʻoku lahi ange ʻa e ngaahi meʻa lalahi ia ʻoku hoko ʻi he ngaahi lotoʻi fāmilí he ngaahi ʻaho fakaʻosí ni. Ka, ko kimoutolu toʻutupú, ʻoku malava ke mou tokoni ki homou fāmilí ke tuli ki he melino fakaʻotuá. ʻO anga-fēfē? ʻAki ʻa e talangofua ki he akonaki ko ʻeni ʻa e Tohitapú: “Ae fānau, fai talagofua ki hoo mou mātua i he mea kotoabe: he oku lelei lahi ia ki he Eiki.”—Kolose 3:20, PM.
11. ʻE lava fēfē ke tokoniʻi ʻe he ngaahi mātuʻá ʻa ʻenau fānaú ke nau hoko ko e kau sevāniti anga-tonu ʻa Sihova?
11 Fēfē kimoutolu ngaahi mātuʻa? Tokoniʻi anga-ʻofa ʻa hoʻomou fānaú ke nau hoko ko e kau sevāniti anga-tonu ʻa Sihova. “ʻAtu ako ki ha tamasiʻi, ʻo tāu mo hono ʻalunga,” ko e lau ia ʻa e Palovepi 22:6. “Talaatu ʻo ka ne ka motuʻa ʻe ʻikai te ne hiki mei ai.” ʻAki ʻa e faiako Fakatohitapu lelei mo e ngaahi faʻifaʻitakiʻanga lelei fakaemātuʻá, heʻikai ai ke toe tafoki ʻa e tamaiki tangata mo e tamaiki fefine tokolahi mei he hala totonú ʻi heʻenau aʻu ʻo motuʻa angé. Ka ʻoku fakatuʻunga lahi ia ʻi he tuʻunga lelei mo e lahi ʻo e ako ʻo e Tohitapú pea pehē ki he loto ʻo e tokotaha kei siʻí.
12. Ko e hā ʻoku totonu ai ke melino ha ʻapi Kalisitiane?
12 Kapau ʻoku feinga ʻa e ngaahi mēmipa kotoa ʻo hotau fāmilí ke fai ʻa e finangalo ʻo Sihová, ʻoku taau ke tau fiefia ʻi he melino fakaʻotuá. ʻOku totonu ki ha ʻapi Kalisitiane ke fonu ai ʻa e ‘ngaahi kaumeʻa ʻo e melinó.’ ʻOku fakahaaʻi ʻe Luke 10:1-6 (NW) naʻe fakakaukau ʻa Sīsū ki he kakai peheé ʻi he taimi naʻá ne fekau atu ai ʻa e kau ākonga ʻe toko 70 ko e kau faifekau pea tala kiate kinautolu: “ʻIlonga ha feituʻu te mou hū ai ki ha fale mou tomuʻa pehē, ‘ʻOfa ke ʻi he falé ni ʻa e melinó.’ Pea kapau ʻoku ʻi ai ha kaumeʻa ʻo e melinó ai, ʻe nofo ʻiate ia ʻa hoʻo melinó.” ʻI he fononga melino atu ʻa e kau sevāniti ʻa Sihová mei he fale ki he fale mo e “ongoongolelei ʻo e melino,” ʻoku nau kumi ki he ngaahi kaumeʻa ʻo e melinó. (Ngāue 10:34-36; Efeso 2:13-18) Ko hono moʻoní, ko ha fāmili Kalisitiane ʻoku langa ʻaki ʻa e ngaahi kaumeʻa ʻo e melinó ʻoku totonu ke hoko ʻo melino.
13, 14. (a) Ko e hā naʻe fiemaʻu ʻe Nāomi maʻa Lute mo Opá? (e) ʻOku totonu ke hoko ha ʻapi Kalisitiane ko ha mālōlōʻanga fēfē?
13 ʻOku totonu ke hoko ʻa ʻapi ko ha feituʻu ʻo e melino mo e mālōlō. Naʻe ʻamanaki ʻa e uitou taʻumotuʻa ko Nāomí ʻe hanga ʻe he ʻOtuá ʻo ʻoange ki hono ongo ʻofefine-ʻi-he-fonó naʻe uitou kei siʻí, kia Lute mo Opa, ʻa e mālōlō mo e fiemālie ʻoku tupu mei hono maʻu ha husepāniti lelei mo ha ʻapi. Naʻe pehē ʻe Nāomi: “Ke tuku mai ʻe Sihova ke mo maʻu ha maloloʻanga taki taha ʻi he fale ʻo hano husepaniti.” (Lute 1:9) ʻI he fekauʻaki mo e fakaʻamu ʻa Nāomí, naʻe tohi ʻe ha mataotao ʻo pehē, ʻi he ngaahi ʻapi peheé “ʻe maʻu ai ʻa e haofekina mei he taʻemanongá mo e loto-moʻuá” ʻe Lute mo Opa. Te na maʻu ʻa e nonga. ʻE aʻu ki ha tuʻunga ʻa ia te na malava ke nofo maʻu, pea ʻi he tuʻunga ʻa ia ko ʻena ngaahi ongoʻi ʻofa lahi tahá mo e ngaahi fiemaʻu taau lahi tahá ʻe fakafiemālie mo mālōlō. Ko e ʻuhinga mavahe ʻo e foʻi lea faka-Hepeluú . . . ʻoku fakahāhaaʻi lelei ia ʻe he natula ʻo e ngaahi foʻi lea fekauʻaki mo ia ʻi he [Aisea 32:17, 18].”
14 Kātaki ʻo fakatokangaʻi ange ʻa e lave ko ʻeni ki he Aisea 32:17, 18. ʻOku tau lau ai: “ʻE hoko ʻa e ngaue ʻa e faitotonu ko e melino; pea ko e fua ʻa e faitotonu ko e nonga mo e falala ʻo taʻengata. Pea ʻe nofo ʻa hoku kakai ʻi ha nofoʻanga fiemalie, pea ʻi ha ngaahi ʻapitanga falalaʻanga, pea ki he ngaahi maloloʻanga ʻoku lava ai ke hamumunoa.” ʻOku totonu ke hoko ha ʻapi Kalisitiane ko ha mālōlōʻanga ʻo e faitotonu, nonga, malu, pea mo e melino fakaʻotua. Kae fēfē ʻo ka malanga hake ha ngaahi ʻahiʻahi, ngaahi faikehekehe, pe ngaahi palopalema kehe? ʻOku fiemaʻu leva tautefito ke tau ʻiloʻi ʻa e fakapulipuli ʻo e fāmili fiefiá.
Ngaahi Tefitoʻi Moʻoni Mātuʻaki Mahuʻinga ʻe Fā
15. Te ke fakamatalaʻi fēfē ʻa e fakapulipuli ʻo e fāmili fiefiá?
15 ʻOku moʻuaʻaki ʻe he ngaahi fāmili kotoa pē ʻi he māmaní ʻa hono hingoá kia Sihova ko e ʻOtuá, ko e Tokotaha-Fakatupu ʻo e ngaahi fāmilí. (Efeso 3:14, 15) Ko ia ko e faʻahinga ʻoku holi ki he fāmili fiefiá ʻoku totonu ke nau kumi ki heʻene tatakí pea fakahīkihikiʻi ia, ʻo hangē ko ia naʻe fai ʻe he tokotaha-tohi-sāmé: “Tuku kia Sihova, ʻa e ngaahi famili ʻo e ngaahi faʻahinga, tuku kia Sihova ʻa e kololia mo e malohinga.” (Sāme 96:7) Ko e fakapulipuli ʻo e fāmili fiefiá ʻoku ʻi he ngaahi peesi ia ʻo e Folofola ʻa e ʻOtuá, ko e Tohitapú, pea mo hono ngāueʻaki ʻa hono ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoní. Ko ha fāmili ʻokú ne ngāueʻaki ʻa e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni ko ʻení ʻe fiefia ia pea te ne fiefia ʻi he melino fakaʻotuá. Ko ia ai, tau sio ange ki he ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni mahuʻinga ʻe fā ko ʻení.
16. Ko e hā ʻa e ngafa ʻoku totonu ke fai ʻe he mapuleʻi-kitá ʻi he moʻui fakafāmilí?
16 Ko e taha ʻo e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni ko ʻení ʻoku fakatefito ia ʻi he meʻá ni: ʻOku mātuʻaki mahuʻinga ʻa e mapuleʻi-kitá ki he melino fakaʻotua ʻi he moʻui fakafāmilí. Naʻe pehē ʻe Tuʻi Solomone: “Ko e kolo kuo holo, ʻo ʻikai kei ai hano ʻa, ko e tangata ia ʻoku ʻikai mapuke hono loto.” (Palovepi 25:28) Ko hono mapukepuke hotau lotó—ʻa hono ngāueʻi ʻo e mapuleʻi-kitá—ʻoku mātuʻaki mahuʻinga ia ʻo kapau ʻoku tau holi ke maʻu ha fāmili melino mo fiefia. Neongo ʻoku tau taʻehaohaoa, ʻoku fiemaʻu ke tau ngāueʻi ʻa e mapuleʻi-kitá, ʻa ia ko ha fua ia ʻo e laumālie māʻoniʻoni ʻo e ʻOtuá. (Loma 7:21, 22: Kaletia 5:22, 23) ʻE fakatupu ʻe he laumālié ʻa e mapuleʻi-kitá ʻiate kitautolu ʻo kapau ʻoku tau lotu ʻo kole ʻa e ʻulungaanga ko iá, ngāueʻaki ʻa e akonaki ʻa e Tohitapú ʻo fekauʻaki mo iá, pea feohi mo e niʻihi kehe ʻoku nau fakahāhā iá. ʻE tokoniʻi kitautolu ʻe he ʻalunga ko ʻení ke tau “hola pe mei he fai feʻauaki.” (1 Kolinito 6:18) ʻE toe tokoniʻi kitautolu ʻe he mapuleʻi-kitá ke tau talitekeʻi ʻa e anga-fakamālohí, fakaʻehiʻehi pe ikuʻi ʻa hono maʻu tōtuʻa ʻa e inu ʻolokaholó, pea feangainga mokomoko ange mo e ngaahi tuʻunga faingataʻá.
17, 18. (a) ʻOku anga-fēfē hono ngāueʻaki ʻa e 1 Kolinito 11:3 ki he moʻui fakafāmili Kalisitiané? (e) ʻOku anga-fēfē ʻa e tokoni ʻa hono tali ko ia ʻo e tuʻunga-ʻulú ki he melino fakaʻotua ʻi ha fāmili?
17 Ko e toe tefitoʻi moʻoni mātuʻaki mahuʻinga ʻe taha ʻoku pehé ni hono fakaleá: Ko hono tali ʻa e tuʻunga-ʻulú ʻe tokoni ia kiate kitautolu ke tuli ki he melino fakaʻotuá ʻi hotau ngaahi fāmilí. Naʻe tohi ʻe Paula: “ʻOku ou loto ke mou ʻilo, ko e ʻulu ʻo e tangata kotoa pe ko Kalaisi; pea ko e ʻulu ʻo e fefine ko e tangata; pea ko e ʻulu ʻo Kalaisi ko e ʻOtua.” (1 Kolinito 11:3) ʻOku ʻuhinga ʻení ʻe taki muʻa ʻa e tangatá ʻi he fāmilí, ʻo poupou mateaki ki ai ʻa hono uaifí, pea talangofua ʻa e fānaú. (Efeso 5:22-25, 28-33; 6:1-4) ʻE tokoni ʻa e faʻahinga ʻulungaanga ko iá ki he melino fakaʻotua ʻi he moʻui fakafāmilí.
18 ʻOku fiemaʻu ki ha husepāniti Kalisitiane ke ne manatuʻi ko e tuʻunga-ʻulu Fakatohitapú ʻoku ʻikai pule fakaaoao. Kuo pau ke ne faʻifaʻitaki kia Sīsū, ko hono ʻUlú. Neongo te ne “ʻulu . . . ʻi he meʻa kotoa pe,” ko Sīsuú “naʻe ʻikai te ne haʻu ke maʻu sevaniti, ka ke sevaniti pe ʻe ia.” (Efeso 1:22; Mātiu 20:28) ʻI ha founga meimei tatau, ʻe ngāueʻaki ʻe ha tangata Kalisitiane ʻa e tuʻunga-ʻulú ʻi ha founga anga-ʻofa ʻa ia ʻe fakaivia ai ia ke ne tokanga lelei ki he ngaahi fiemaʻu ʻa hono fāmilí. Pea ko hono moʻoní, ʻe loto ha uaifi Kalisitiane ke ne fetokoniʻaki mo hono husepānití. ʻI he tuʻunga ko ha “tokoni” mo “ha fakakakato” kiate iá, ʻokú ne tokonaki mai ai ʻa e ngaahi ʻulungaanga ʻoku ʻikai maʻu ʻe hono husepānití pea fai kiate ia ʻa e poupou ʻoku fiemaʻú. (Senesi 2:20, NW; Palovepi 31:10-31) Ko hono ngāue totonu ʻaki ʻa e tuʻunga-ʻulú ʻoku tokoni ia ki he ngaahi husepānití mo e ngaahi uaifí ke nau feangaingaʻaki ʻi he fakaʻapaʻapa pea ʻe ueʻi ai ʻa e fānaú ke talangofua. ʻIo, ko hono tali ʻa e tuʻunga-ʻulú ʻoku tokoni ia ki he melino fakaʻotua ʻi he moʻui fakafāmilí.
19. Ko e hā ʻoku mātuʻaki mahuʻinga ai ʻa e fetuʻutaki leleí ki he melino mo e fiefia ʻa e fāmilí?
19 Ko ha tefitoʻi moʻoni mahuʻinga hono tolú ʻoku lava ke fakahaaʻi ia ʻi he ngaahi leá ni: Ko e lelei ʻa e fetuʻutakí ʻoku mātuʻaki mahuʻinga ia ki he melino mo e fiefia ʻa e fāmilí. ʻOku tala mai ʻe he Semisi 1:19 kiate kitautolu: “Ke vave ʻa e tangata fuape he fanongo, kae fakatotoka ki he lea, pea fakatotoka ki he ʻita.” ʻOku fiemaʻu ki he ngaahi mēmipa ʻo e fāmilí ke fefanongoʻaki mo fetalanoaʻaki koeʻuhi ko e fetuʻutaki ʻa e fāmilí ko ha hala ʻoku tafaʻaki-ua. Kae kehe, naʻa mo e taimi ʻoku tau leaʻaki ai ʻa e meʻa ʻoku moʻoní, ʻoku meimei ke lahi ange ʻene fakatupu ʻa e maumaú ʻi he leleí ʻo kapau ʻoku leaʻaki ia ʻi ha founga anga-fakamamahi, pōlepole, pe taʻeongoʻi. ʻOku totonu ke ifo ʻetau leá, ʻo “fakaifo ʻaki ha masima.” (Kolose 4:6) Ko e ngaahi fāmili ʻoku muimui ki he ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni Fakatohitapú pea fetuʻutaki leleí ʻoku nau tuli ki he melino fakaʻotuá.
20. Ko e hā te ke pehē ai ʻoku mātuʻaki mahuʻinga ʻa e ʻofá ki he melino ʻa e fāmilí?
20 Ko e tefitoʻi moʻoni hono faá leva ʻeni: ʻOku mātuʻaki mahuʻinga ʻa e ʻofá ki he melino mo e fiefia ʻa e fāmilí. Ko e ʻofa fakaemanakó ʻoku ʻi ai nai ʻene kaunga mahuʻinga ʻi he nofo malí, pea ko e ʻofa lolotó ʻoku malava ke tupulaki ia ʻi he lotolotonga ʻo e ngaahi mēmipa ʻo ha fāmili. Neongo ia, ko e meʻa ʻoku toe mahuʻinga angé, ko e ʻofa ko ia ʻoku ʻuhinga ki ai ʻa e foʻi lea faka-Kalisi ko e a·gaʹpe. Ko e ʻofa ʻeni ʻoku tau fakatupulekina kia Sihova, kia Sīsū, pea ki hotau kaungāʻapí. (Mātiu 22:37-39) Naʻe fakahāhaaʻi ʻe he ʻOtuá ʻa e ʻofa ko ʻení ki he faʻahinga ʻo e tangatá ʻaki ʻene foaki “hono ʻAlo tofu-pe-taha-ne-fakatupu, koeʻuhi ko ia kotoa pe ʻoku tui pikitai kiate ia ke ʻoua naʻa ʻauha, kae maʻu ʻa e moʻui taʻengata.” (Sione 3:16) He toki meʻa fisifisimuʻa lahi ē ke tau fakahāhā ʻa e faʻahinga ʻofa tatau ki he ngaahi mēmipa ʻo hotau fāmilí! Ko e ʻofa māʻolunga ko ʻení “ko e fakamaʻu ʻo e haohaoa.” (Kolose 3:14) ʻOkú ne haʻi fakataha ha ongo meʻa mali pea ueʻi kinaua ke fai ʻa e meʻa ʻoku lelei taha kiate kinauá taki taha pea ki heʻena fānaú. ʻI he taimi ʻoku hoko ai ha ngaahi faingataʻa, ʻoku tokoniʻi kinaua ʻe he ʻofá ke na fāʻūtaha ʻona fakaleleiʻi ʻa e ngaahi meʻá. ʻOku lava ke tau fakapapauʻi ʻa e meʻá ni koeʻuhi ko “ʻofa . . . ʻoku ʻikai te ne kumi ʻene lelei aʻana . . . ʻOku ne ʻukuma ʻi he meʻa kotoa pe, ʻoku ne tui ʻi he meʻa kotoa pe, ʻoku ne ʻamanaki ʻi he meʻa kotoa pe, ʻoku ne kataki ʻi he meʻa kotoa pe. Ko ʻofa ʻoku ʻikai ke kaʻanga ia ʻi ha taimi.” (1 Kolinito 13:4-8) Ko e fiefia moʻoni ia ka ko e ngaahi fāmili ʻa ia ko e feʻofaʻakí ai ʻoku fakafefekaʻiʻaki ʻa e ʻofa kia Sihová!
Hanganaki Tuli ki he Melino Fakaʻotuá
21. Ko e hā ʻoku meimei ke ne fakatupulekina ʻa e melino mo e fiefia ʻa ho fāmilí?
21 Ko e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni naʻe lave ki ai ki muʻá mo e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni kehe kuo toʻo mei he Tohitapú ʻoku fakaeʻa ia ʻi he ngaahi tohi kuo tokonaki anga-ʻofa mai ʻe Sihova ʻo fakafou mai ʻi he “tamaioeiki agatonu mo boto.” (Mātiu 24:45, PM) Ko e fakatātaá, ʻoku maʻu ʻa e fakamatala peheé ʻi he tohi peesi 192 ko e The Secret of Family Happiness, naʻe tukuange mai ʻi he ngaahi Fakataha-Lahi Fakavahe “Kau Talafekau ʻo e Melino Fakaʻotuá” ʻa e Kau Fakamoʻoni ʻa Sihová naʻe fai takai ʻi he māmaní ʻi he 1996/1997. Ko hono ako fakafoʻituitui mo fakafāmili ʻo e ngaahi Konga Tohitapú fakataha mo e tokoni ʻa ha tohi pehē, ʻoku lava ke maʻu ai ʻa e ngaahi ʻaonga lahi. (Aisea 48:17, 18) ʻIo, ko hono ngāueʻaki ʻa e akonaki Fakatohitapú ʻoku meimei ke ne fakatupulekina ʻa e melino mo e fiefia ʻa ho fāmilí.
22. ʻOku totonu ke fakatefito ʻetau moʻui fakafāmilí ʻi he hā?
22 Kuo tuku tauhi mai ʻe Sihova ʻa e ngaahi meʻa fisifisimuʻa maʻá e ngaahi fāmili ʻoku nau fai hono finangaló, pea ʻokú ne tuha mo ʻetau fakahīkihikí mo e ngāué. (Fakahā 21:1-4) Ko ia ai, ʻofa ke fakatefito ʻa e moʻui ʻa ho fāmilí ʻi he lotu ki he ʻOtua moʻoní. Pea ʻofa ke hanga ʻe heʻetau Tamai fakahēvani anga-ʻofa, ko Sihová, ʻo tāpuakiʻi koe ʻaki ʻa e fiefia ʻi hoʻo tuli ki he melino fakaʻotuá ʻi hoʻo moʻui fakafāmilí!
Ko e Hā Haʻo Tali?
◻ Ko e hā ʻoku fiemaʻú, kapau ko e ngaahi fāmilí ke moʻui ʻaki ʻa e anga-līʻoa fakaʻotuá?
◻ Ko e hā ʻoku ʻi ha tuʻunga tauhaʻa ai ʻa e fāmilí he ʻahó ni?
◻ Ko e hā ʻa e fakapulipuli ʻo e fāmili fiefiá?
◻ Ko e hā ʻa e ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni ʻe niʻihi te nau tokoniʻi kitautolu ke tokoni ki he melino mo e fiefia ʻi he moʻui fakafāmilí?
[Fakatātā ʻi he peesi 18]
Ko e fetuʻutaki leleí ʻoku tokoni ia kiate kitautolu ke tuli ki he melino fakaʻotuá ʻi he moʻui fakafāmilí