Isahluko 9

Ngingamelana Kanjani Nesilingo?

Ayikapheli imizuzu eyishumi uZandile esephathini lapho ebona abafana ababili befika bephethe opulasitiki abaningana. Uyazi ukuthi kukhonani kulab’ opulasitiki. Ubebazwile bona laba bafana bethi bazobe “bebuhlaba” kule phathi.

Khona manjalo, uZandile uzwa izwi alijwayele ngemva kwakhe. “Umeleni lapho S’thingithingi?” Uyaphenduka abone umngane wakhe uSindi ephethe amabhodlela amabili otshwala asanda kuvulwa. USindi utshengisa uZandile elilodwa, athi, “Ungangitsheli ukuthi usemncane ukuba uphuze!”

UZandile ufuna ukwenqaba. Kodwa sinamandla kakhulu isifiso sokuba avume. USindi ungumngane wakhe, futhi uZandile akafuni umngane wakhe acabange ukuthi . . . “uyisithingithingi” njengoba embize kanjalo. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uSindi ungenye yamantombazane akahle. Futhi uma naye ephuza, hhawu, ikuphi inkinga? UZandile uyacabanga, ‘Ubhiya nje. Ungcono kunokudla izidakamizwa noma ukulala nomfana.’

LAPHO usemncane, izilingo zifika ziyizinhlobo eziningi. Ngokuvamile, zisuke zihilela abobulili obuhlukile. “Amantombazane asesikoleni awuhlupho,” kusho uRamon oneminyaka engu-17. “Ayathanda ukukuthinta efuna ukubona ukuthi uzokwenzenjani. Ayabelesela!” UDeanna, naye oneminyaka engu-17, uyakufakazela lokhu. Uthi, “Omunye umfana weza kimi wafike wangigaxa. Ngamshaya engalweni ngathi: ‘Wenzani wena! Angikwazi nakukwazi!’”

Nawe ungase ulingwe futhi kungase kubonakale sengathi izilingo azipheli. Isilingo esilokhu sifike njalo singafana nomuntu ongqongqoza angayeki nakuba esicabheni kunophawu oluthi “Ungaphazamisi.” Ingabe ulingwa kaningi? Ngokwesibonelo, ingabe kukhona kulokhu okulandelayo okuyisilingo kuwe?

□ Ukubhema

□ Ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile

□ Ukuphuza utshwala

□ Ukulala nomfana noma nentombazane

□ Ukudla izidakamizwa

□ Okunye ․․․․․

Uma ufake u-✔ kunoma yikuphi okungenhla, ungaphethi ngokuthi ngeke nje ube umKristu wena. Ungafunda ukulawula izifiso ezingafanele futhi ulwe nezilingo. Kanjani? Kuyasiza ukwazi ukuthi yini ebangela isilingo. Cabanga ngalezi zici ezintathu.

1. Ukungapheleli. Bonke abantu abangaphelele bathambekele ekwenzeni izinto ezingalungile. Ngisho nomphostoli uPawulu—umKristu ovuthiwe—wavuma: “Lapho ngifisa ukwenza okuhle, kukhona okubi kimi.” (Roma 7:21) Ngokusobala, ngisho noqotho kangakanani umuntu, ngezinye izikhathi uyosiqaphela “isifiso senyama nesifiso samehlo.” (1 Johane 2:16) Kepha ukuhlala ucabangana nokwenza okubi kwenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu ngoba iBhayibheli lithi: “Isifiso, lapho sesakhekile, sizala isono.”—Jakobe 1:15.

2. Amathonya angaphandle. Izilingo zikhona yonk’ indawo. “Esikoleni nasemsebenzini abantu bahlale bekhuluma ngobulili,” kusho uTrudy. “Kuyi-TV nakumabhayisikobho buvezwa buyinto enhle nemnandi kakhulu. Ayivezwa imiphumela yabo emibi!” UTrudy wazibonela indlela elinamandla ngayo ithonya lontanga nelezinto ezinjenge-TV. Uyakhumbula, “Ngangicabanga ukuthi siyathandana ngempela nesoka lami lapho ngineminyaka engu-16. Umama wahlala nami phansi wangitshela ukuthi uma izinto ziqhubeka ngendlela ezaziqhubeka ngayo, ngizogcina ngikhulelwe. Ngashaqeka ukuthi umama wayecabanga lokho! Ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbili, ngakhulelwa.”

3. “Izifiso zobusha.” (2 Thimothewu 2:22) Le nkulumo ingahlanganisa noma yisiphi isifiso esivamile kubantu abasha, njengokufuna ukwamukelwa noma ukuzakhela igama. Azizimbi lezi zifiso, kodwa uma ziyekwa zingalawulwa, zingenza kube nzima ukulwa nezilingo. Ngokwesibonelo, isifiso sokuzakhela elakho igama singakwenza ulahle izimfanelo ezinhle ozifundiswe ekhaya. Yilokho okwenzeka kuSteve lapho eneminyaka engu-17. Uthi, “Ngaxabana nabazali bami futhi ngenza konke ababengifundise ukuba ngingakwenzi—konke lokhu ngikwenza lapho nje ngisanda kubhapathizwa.”

Indlela Yokulwa Nezilingo

Kuyavunywa, la mathonya achazwe ngenhla anamandla. Yize kunjalo, ungalwa nezilingo. Kanjani?

● Okokuqala, thola ukuthi yisiphi isilingo esinamandla kakhulu kuwe. (Kungenzeka usukwenzile lokhu ekhasini 65.)

● Okwesibili, zibuze, ‘Sifika nini lesi silingo?’ Faka u-✔ eceleni kwempendulo yakho:

□ Lapho ngisesikoleni

□ Lapho ngingedwa

□ Lapho ngisemsebenzini

□ Okunye ․․․․․

Ukwazi ukuthi singafika nini isilingo kungase kukusize usigweme nokusigwema. Ngokwesibonelo, cabanga ngaleya ndaba esekuqaleni kwesahluko. Yisiphi isixwayiso uZandile asithola sokuthi kuzokwenzeka into engafanele ephathini ayekuyo?

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Wayengasigwema kanjani isilingo kwasekuqaleni?

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● Njengoba ususitholile isilingo futhi wabona ukuthi singafika nini, usukulungele ukulwa naso. Umgomo wakho wokuqala ukuthola ukuthi ungawanciphisa noma uwavale kanjani amathuba okuba uhlangane naleso silingo. Ngezansi bhala lokho ongase ukwenze.

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(Izibonelo: Uma njalo ngemva kwesikole uhlangana nezingane ofunda nazo ezikufundekela ngokuba ubheme nazo, mhlawumbe ungahamba ngenye indlela ukuze ungahlangani nazo. Uma uvame ukuthola izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ze-Internet ungazicelanga, ungase ucabangele ukufaka izinhlelo ze-computer ezivala imiyalezo evela kulowo muntu kanye nezinye izingosi ezinjalo. Kungadingeka ucophelele futhi nasemagameni owafaka lapho usebenzisa i-Internet.)

Yiqiniso, awunakuzigwema zonke izilingo. Cishe uzobhekana nesilingo esinamandla kakhulu—mhlawumbe ungasilindele. Yini ongayenza?

Kulungele

Lapho uJesu “elingwa uSathane,” washesha ukwenqaba. (Marku 1:13) Kungani? Kungoba wayazi ukuthi umiphi ezindabeni ezibalulekile ezaphakama. UJesu wayesenqumile kakade ukulalela uYise zikhathi zonke. (Johane 8:28, 29) Wayeqinisile ngempela lapho ethi: “Angehlanga ezulwini ukuba ngizokwenza intando yami kodwa intando yalowo ongithumileyo.”—Johane 6:38.

Ekhasini elilandelayo, bhala izizathu ezimbili zokuthi kungani kufanele ulwe nesilingo esikufikela njalo kanye nezindlela ezimbili ezingakusiza ukuba ulwe naso.

Izizathu zokuba ulwe nesilingo:

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Izindlela ezingakusiza ukuba ulwe nesilingo:

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Khumbula, uma usivumela isilingo sikwehlule, uba isigqila sezifiso zakho. (Thithu 3:3) Kungani kumelwe uvumele izifiso zakho zikulawule? Bonisa ukuvuthwa, ulawule izifiso zakho kunokuba uzivumele zikulawule. (Kolose 3:5) Futhi thandazela ukuba uqhubeke wenza kanjalo.—Mathewu 6:13.a

FUNDA OKWENGEZIWE NGALESI SIHLOKO EMQULWINI 2, ISAHLUKO 15

[Umbhalo waphansi]

UMBHALO OYINHLOKO

“UNkulunkulu uthembekile, futhi ngeke akuvumele ukuba nilingwe ngokungaphezu kwalokho eningakuthwala, kodwa kanye naleso silingo uyokwenza nendlela yokuphuma ukuze nikwazi ukusikhuthazelela.”—1 Korinte 10:13.

ICEBISO

Sebenzisa “uHlelo Lokumelana Nokucindezela Kontanga” olusemakhasini 132 no-133 encwadini ethi Intsha Iyabuza—Izimpendulo Ezisebenzayo, uMqulu 2, ukuze ubhale izimpendulo ongazisebenzisa lapho umuntu ezama ukukulingela ekwenzeni okubi.

UBUWAZI . . . ?

UNkulunkulu wabikezela ukuthi uJesu wayeyokwethembeka, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi uJesu wayenjengerobhothi. Kunalokho, wayenenkululeko yokuzikhethela. Wazikhethela ukwethembeka—akuzange kuzenzakalele. Lesi esinye sezizathu ezamenza wathandaza ngokusuka enhliziyweni lapho elingwa.—Hebheru 5:7.

ENGIZOKWENZA!

Ukuze ngikwazi ukuba namandla okulwa nesilingo, ngizo- ․․․․․

Abantu, izindawo nezimo okudingeka ngizigweme․․․․․

Engingathanda ukukubuza umzali wami (abazali) ngale ndaba ․․․․․

UCABANGANI?

● Ingabe izidalwa eziphelele zingalingeka?—Genesise 6:1-3; Johane 8:44.

● Lapho ulwa nesilingo, ukwethembeka kwakho kuba naliphi ithonya kwabanye?—IzAga 27:11; 1 Thimothewu 4:12.

[Amazwi acashunwe esihlokweni ekhasini 68]

“Ngisizwa ukwazi ukuthi ngisekelwa uMuntu onamandla kunabo bonke ezulwini nasemhlabeni futhi ngingalucela noma nini usizo lwakhe!’’—UChristopher

[Ibhokisi/Isithombe ekhasini 67]

Zama Lokhu!

Thatha ikhampasi, uyimise ngendlela yokuba uthi lwayo lukhombe enyakatho. Yibe usubeka uzibuthe eceleni kwayo. Kwenzekani? Uthi alube lusakhomba endaweni efanele. Kunalokho, lutshekela ngakuzibuthe.

Unembeza wakho ufana naleyo khampasi. Uma uqeqeshwe kahle, uyokhomba “enyakatho,” noma endaweni efanele, futhi ukusize wenze izinqumo ezihlakaniphile. Kodwa njengozibuthe, abangane ababi banamandla angaphazamisa ukwahlulela kwakho okuhle ezindabeni zokuziphatha. Yini esiyifundayo? Zama ukugwema abantu nezimo ezingakwenza ungahluleli kahle endabeni yokuziphatha!—IzAga 13:20.

[Isithombe ekhasini 69]

Lapho uvumela izilingo zikwehlule, uba isigqila sezifiso zakho