Ko e Hā ʻa e ʻUhinga ʻo e Anganofo ʻi he Nofo Malí?
ʻI HE taimi ʻoku mali ai ha fefine Kalisitiane, ʻe lahi ʻa e ngaahi feʻunuʻaki te ne fai. Mahalo pē ko e lahi taha ʻo e ngaahi meʻá ni ʻoku kaunga ki heʻene tauʻatāiná. ʻI he tuʻunga ko ha tokotaha lahi taʻemalí, naʻá ne tauʻatāina nai ke ne fai haʻane ngaahi fili pē ʻaʻana ʻo ʻikai ke kau ai ha taha kehe ke ne fai ha fetalanoaʻaki mo ia. Ka ʻi he taimí ni kuo ʻi ai hono husepāniti, ʻoku ʻi ai leva hono fatongia ke ne fai ha fetalanoaʻaki mo ia, pea ke ne kole ha fakangofua ke ne fai ha ngaahi meʻa lahi ʻa ia naʻá ne faʻa fai ʻene fili pē ʻaʻana ki ai ki muʻa. Ko e hā ʻoku pehē aí?
Koeʻuhi ʻi he taimi naʻe ʻoatu ai ʻe he Tokotaha-Fakatupu ʻo e faʻahinga ʻo e tangatá ke mali ʻa e ʻuluaki fefiné ki he ʻuluaki tangatá, naʻá Ne fakanofo ʻa e tangatá ke ne hoko ko e ʻulu ʻo hono uaifí pea mo haʻana fānau ʻi he kahaʻú. Naʻe ʻuhinga totonu pē ʻa e meʻá ni. ʻI ha faʻahinga kulupu pē ʻo ha kakai kuo fakatahatahaʻi, ʻe fiemaʻu ha taha ke ne fai ʻa e takí pea ke ne fai ʻa e fili aofangatukú. Fekauʻaki mo e nofo malí, naʻe tuʻutuʻuni ʻe he Tokotaha-Fakatupú “ko e husepaniti ko e ʻulu ʻo e uaifi.”—ʻEfesō 5:23.
ʻI hono poupouʻi ʻa e meʻa ko ʻení, ʻoku pehē ʻe he fakahinohino fakaeʻotuá: “ʻA e kau fefine, mou anganofo ki siʻomou ngaahi husepaniti.” (ʻEfesō 5:22) ʻOku fakatuʻunga ʻi he meʻa ʻe ua pe ʻe fēfē ʻa e kaunga ʻa e fokotuʻutuʻu ko ʻení ki ha uaifi: Ko e ʻuluakí, ʻe fēfē ʻene loto-fiefai ke anganofo ki he fokotuʻutuʻú? pea ko hono uá, ʻe fēfē ʻa hono ngāueʻaki ʻe hono husepānití ʻa hono mafaí? Ko hono moʻoní, kapau ʻoku totonu ʻa e vakai ʻa e ongo hoa malí fakatouʻosi ki he fokotuʻutuʻú ni, te na ʻilo ko e tāpuaki ia ki he uaifí, ki he husepānití, pea ki heʻena fānaú.
ʻIkai ko ha Tokotaha ʻOku Pule Kakaha
ʻOku totonu ke fēfē ʻa hono ngāueʻaki ʻe he husepānití hono mafaí? ʻAki ʻene muimui ki he faʻifaʻitakiʻanga lelei ʻa e ʻAlo ʻo e ʻOtuá. ʻOku pehē ʻe he Tohitapú: “He ko e husepaniti ko e ʻulu ʻo e uaifi, ʻo hange foki ko Kalaisi ko e ʻulu ʻo e siasi; ʻio ko ia ia ko e fakamoʻui ʻo e sino. ʻA e kau tangata, mou ʻofa ki homou ngaahi uaifi, ʻo hange foki ko Kalaisi ne ne ʻofaʻi ʻa e siasi, ʻo ne liʻoa ʻa ʻEne ʻAfio koeʻuhi ko ia.” (ʻEfesō 5:23, 25) Naʻe hoko ko ha tāpuaki ki he fakatahaʻangá ʻa hono ngāueʻaki ʻe Sīsū Kalaisi hono tuʻunga-ʻulú. Naʻe ʻikai ko ha tokotaha pule kakaha ia. Naʻe ʻikai te ne ʻai ʻene kau ākongá ke nau ongoʻi ʻoku lōmia pe fakafeʻātungiaʻi kinautolu. Ka ʻi heʻene feangai anga-ʻofa mo kaungāongoʻi mo kinautolú naʻá ne maʻu ai ʻa e ʻapasia ʻa kinautolu kotoa. Ko ha faʻifaʻitakiʻanga lelei ē ke muimui ki ai ʻa e ngaahi husepānití ʻi heʻenau feangai mo honau ngaahi uaifí!
Ka ʻoku ʻi ai ʻa e ngaahi husepāniti, ʻoku ʻikai te nau muimui ki he faʻifaʻitakiʻanga lelei ko ʻení. ʻOku nau ngāue siokita ʻaki honau tuʻunga-ʻulu kuo fokotuʻu ʻe he ʻOtuá, kae ʻikai ki he lelei ʻo honau ngaahi uaifí. ʻOku nau pule ki honau ngaahi uaifí ʻi he anga-kakaha, ʻo kouna ai ke nau anganofo kakato pea ʻikai ke faʻa fakangofuaʻi kinautolu ke nau fai ha ngaahi fili maʻanautolu pē. ʻOku mahino, ko e ngaahi uaifi ʻo e ngaahi husepāniti peheé ʻoku ʻikai ke fiefia ʻa ʻenau moʻuí. Pea ʻoku taʻeʻaonga foki ki ha husepāniti pehē he ʻe ʻikai te ne maʻu ai ʻa e ʻapasia anga-ʻofa ʻa hono uaifí.
ʻOku moʻoni, ʻoku fiemaʻu ʻe he ʻOtuá ha uaifi ke ʻapasia ki he tuʻunga ʻoku maʻu ʻe hono husepānití ʻi he tuʻunga ko e ʻulu ʻo e fāmilí. Ka ʻo kapau ʻoku holi ʻa e husepānití ke ne maʻu ʻa e ʻapasia tupu mei he lotó ʻa e uaifí kiate ia, kuo pau ke ne ngāue ke maʻu ia, pea ko e founga lelei taha ke fai ai iá te ne fatongiaʻaki ʻene ngāue pea fakatupu ʻa e ngaahi ʻulungaanga lelei fakaeʻotua ʻi he tuʻunga ko e ʻulu ʻo e fāmilí.
ʻOku Fakangatangata ʻa e Anganofó
Ko e mafai ʻo e husepānití ki hono uaifí ʻoku ʻikai ke fai fakaʻaufuli ia. ʻI ha ngaahi founga ʻe niʻihi ko e anganofo ʻa e uaifí ʻe fehoanaki ia mo e anganofo ʻa ha tokotaha Kalisitiane ki ha pule fakaemāmani. ʻOku tuʻutuʻuni mai ʻa e ʻOtuá kuo pau “ke anganofo . . . ki he ngaahi pule ʻoku maʻolunga.” (Loma 13:1) Ka ko e anganofo ko ʻení kuo pau ke ʻai ʻo mafamafatatau maʻu pē mo e meʻa ko ia ʻoku fiemaʻu ʻe he ʻOtuá. Naʻe pehē ʻe Sīsū: “ʻAnge kia Sisa ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻa Sisa, pea ki he ʻOtua ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻa e ʻOtua.” (Maʻake 12:17) Kapau ko Sisa (ko e puleʻanga fakaemāmaní) te ne kouna mai ke tau ʻoange kiate ia ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻoku ʻa e ʻOtuá, ʻoku tau manatuʻi ʻa e meʻa naʻe leaʻaki ʻe he ʻapositolo ko Pitá: “Oku totonu e mau talagofua ki he Otua i he tagata.”—Ngāue 5:29, PM.
ʻI ha founga meimei tatau, kapau kuo mali ha fefine Kalisitiane ki ha tangata ʻoku ʻikai ke mahino pe ʻoku ʻikai te ne ʻapasia ki he ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni faka-Kalisitiané, ko hono moʻua ia ʻo e uaifí ke ne anganofo kiate ia neongo ʻa e tuʻunga ko iá. ʻI he lelei ange ke ʻoua ʻe angatuʻu ki he fokotuʻutuʻu kuo fokotuʻu ʻe he ʻOtuá, ko e meʻa lelei ki he uaifí ke ne ʻai hono angá ke anga-ʻofa mo fakaʻatuʻi ki hono husepānití mo feinga ke falala ange kiate ia ʻa e husepānití. Mahalo pē ko e ʻulungaanga lelei peheé te ne ʻai hono husepānití ke liliu; pea aʻu ʻo ikunaʻi mai ai ia ki he moʻoní. (1 Pita 3:1, 2) Kapau ʻe fekauʻi ia ʻe hono husepānití ke ne fai ha faʻahinga meʻa ʻoku tapui ʻe he ʻOtuá, kuo pau ke manatuʻi ʻe he uaifí ko hono Pule māʻolunga tahá ko e ʻOtuá. Ko e fakatātā, kapau ʻe fakamālohiʻi ʻe he husepānití ke ne kau ki he ngaahi founga fakaefehokotaki fakasino taʻetaaú, ʻo hangē ko hono fakafetongi ʻa e ngaahi uaifí, ʻoku ʻikai leva ko hono moʻua ia ke ne anganofo ki ai. (1 Kolinitō 6:9, 10) Ko e anganofo ʻa e uaifí ki hono husepānití ʻe puleʻi ia ʻe he konisēnisi ʻo e uaifí pea mo ʻene fakamuʻomuʻa ʻa e anganofo ki he ʻOtuá.
ʻI he ʻaho ʻo e Tuʻi ko Tēvitá, naʻe mali ai ʻa ʻApikale kia Nāpale, ko e tangata naʻe ʻikai ke ʻapasia ki he ngaahi tefitoʻi moʻoni fakaeʻotuá pea naʻá ne ngāue anga-fefeka mo anga-taʻeʻofa kia Tēvita mo ʻene kautaú. Naʻa nau maluʻi ʻa e laui afe ʻo e fanga sipi mo e fanga kosi ʻa ia ko e fanga manu ʻa Nāpalé, ka ʻi he kole ʻa Tēvita ki ha tokoni fakaemeʻakaí, naʻe fakafisi ʻa Nāpale ke ne ʻomai ha meʻa kiate kinautolu.
ʻI he toki ʻiloʻi ʻe ʻApikale ʻe fakatupu faingataʻaʻia ki hono fāmilí ʻa e nima-maʻu ʻa hono husepānití, naʻe fai ai ha fili ʻe ʻApikale ʻiate ia pē ke ne ʻave ʻa e meʻakai kia Tēvita. “Pea fakavave ʻa Apikale, ʻo ne toʻo ha uangeauʻi foʻi ma, mo e ongo hina leta uaine, mo e nimaʻi sipi kuo ʻosi ngaohi, mo e nimaʻi fuaʻanga koane tunu, mo e teauʻi takaonga kalepi tauaki, mo e uangeauʻi takaonga fiki, ʻo ne fakaheka asi ia. Pea ne pehe ki heʻene kau tama, Mou muʻomuʻa pe; pea ko au eni te u muimui atu. Ka naʻe ʻikai te ne tala ki hono hoa ko Napale.”—1 Sāmiuela 25:18, 19.
Naʻe hala koā ʻa e ngāue ʻa ʻApikale naʻá ne fai ʻo fepaki mo e loto ʻo hono husepānití? ʻIkai ʻi he meʻa ko ʻení. Ko e anganofo ʻa ʻApikalé naʻe ʻikai te ne ʻai ia ke ne muimui ki he anga-taʻeʻofa ʻo tatau mo hono husepānití, tautefito koeʻuhi ko e founga taʻefakapotopoto ʻa Nāpale naʻá ne ʻai ai hono fāmilí ki ha tuʻunga fakatuʻutāmaki. Ko ia naʻe lea ʻa Tēvita kia ʻApikale: “Malo mo e ʻEiki ko e ʻOtua ʻo Isileli ʻene fekau koe ke fakafetaulaki kiate au he ʻaho ni. Pea malo e fai fakapotopoto.” (1 Sāmiuela 25:32, 33) ʻOku pehē pē mo e ngaahi uaifi Kalisitiane he ʻaho ní. ʻOku totonu ke ʻoua te nau veuki mo angatuʻu ki he tuʻunga-ʻulu ʻo honau ngaahi husepānití, ka ʻo kapau ʻoku nau fou ʻi ha ʻalunga taʻe faka-Kalisitiane, ʻoku ʻikai ko ha meʻa pau ia ke muimui ai ʻa e ngaahi uaifí ʻiate kinautolu.
ʻOku moʻoni, ʻi he tohi ʻa Paula ki he kakai ʻEfesoó naʻá ne pehē: “Kae hange ʻoku anganofo ʻa e siasi kia Kalaisi, ke pehe foki mo e kau fefine ki honau ngaahi husepaniti ʻi he meʻa kotoa.” (ʻEfesō 5:24) Ko e ngāueʻaki ʻe he ʻapositoló ʻa e kupuʻi lea ko e “ʻi he meʻa kotoa” ʻoku ʻikai ke ʻuhinga ia heni ʻoku taʻefakangatangata ʻa e anganofo ʻa e uaifí. Ko e kupuʻi lea ʻa Paula, ko e “kae hange ʻoku anganofo ʻa e siasi kia Kalaisi,” ʻokú ne fakahā ʻa e meʻa naʻe ʻi heʻene fakakaukaú. Ko e meʻa kotoa pē ʻoku fiemaʻu ʻe Kalaisi mei heʻene fakatahaʻangá ʻoku māʻoniʻoni, ʻo fehoanaki mo e finangalo ʻo e ʻOtuá. Ko ia ai, ʻe faingofua mo fakafiefia ki he fakatahaʻangá ke ne anganofo kiate ia ʻi he meʻa kotoa pē. ʻOku meimei tatau pē mo ha uaifi ʻo ha husepāniti Kalisitiane ʻa ia ʻokú ne feinga fakamātoato ke muimui ʻi he faʻifaʻitakiʻanga ʻa Sīsuú. ʻE fiefia ʻa e uaifí ke anganofo kiate ia ʻi he meʻa kotoa pē. ʻOkú ne ʻiloʻi ʻoku tokanga ʻaupito ʻa hono husepānití ki he ngaahi meʻa lelei taha kiate iá, pea ʻe ʻikai te ne teitei kole fakakaukauʻi pē ki hono uaifí ke ne fai ha faʻahinga meʻa ʻoku ʻikai ke fehoanaki mo e finangalo ʻo e ʻOtuá.
ʻE maʻu ʻe he husepānití ʻa e ʻofa mo e ʻapasia ai pē ʻa hono uaifí ʻi heʻene fakahāhā ʻa e ngaahi ʻulungaanga fakaeʻotua ʻo hono ʻulú, ko Sīsū Kalaisi, ʻa ia naʻá ne fekauʻi hono kau muimuí ke nau feʻofaʻaki. (Sione 13:34) Neongo ʻa e tōngofua mo e taʻehaohaoa ʻa ha husepāniti, kapau te ne ngāueʻaki hono mafaí ʻo fehoanaki mo e tuʻunga-ʻulu māʻolunga ange ʻo Kalaisí, te ne ʻai ai ke faingofua ange ke fiefia hono uaifí ke maʻu ia ko hono ʻulu. (1 Kolinitō 11:3) Kapau ʻe fakatupulekina ʻe he uaifí ʻa e ngaahi ʻulungaanga faka-Kalisitiane ko e anga-fakanānā mo e ʻaloʻofa, heʻikai ke faingataʻa kiate ia ke ne anganofo ki hono husepānití.
Anga-Fakatōkilalo mo Faituʻunga
Ko e ngaahi husepāniti mo e ngaahi uaifi ʻi he fakatahaʻangá ko e ngaahi tokoua mo e tuofāfine fakalaumālie kinautolu pea ʻoku nau tuʻu tatau ʻi he vakai mai ʻa Sihová. (Fehoanaki mo Kalētia 3:28) Kaekehe, kuo vaheʻi ʻe he ʻOtuá ʻa e kau tangatá ke nau fai a e taki ki he fakatahaʻangá. ʻOku lāuʻilo fiefia ki ai ʻa e kau fefine loto-totonu kotoa ʻi he anganofo fakaʻaufuli. Pea ko e fatongia mamafa kuo tuku ki he kau tangatá ke ʻoua te nau fakafieʻeiki ki he tākangá ʻoku laūʻilo anga-fakatōkilalo ki ai ʻa e kau tangata matuʻotuʻa fakalaumālie ʻi he fakatahaʻangá.—1 Pita 5:2, 3.
Kapau ʻoku pehē ʻa e felāveʻi ʻa e kau tangata mo e kau fefine ʻi he fakatahaʻangá, ʻe fēfē leva hano fakatonuhiaʻi ʻe ha husepāniti Kalisitiane ʻa ʻene ngāue ʻo hangē ha taha ʻoku pule kakaha ki hono uaifí, ko hono tuofefine fakalaumālié? Pea ʻe fēfē hano fakatonuhiaʻi ʻe he uaifí ʻa ʻene feʻauhi mo hono husepānití ki he tuʻunga-ʻulú? Ka, ʻoku totonu ke na feangai ʻiate kinaua ʻo hangē ko e akonaki ʻa Pita ki he kau mēmipa kotoa ʻo e fakatahaʻangá: “Ke mou uouagataha be, bea femanavaofaaki kiate kimoutolu, mou ofa fakakaiga, mou loto ogogofua, bea agalelei.” (1 Pita 3:8, PM) Naʻe toe akonaki mai ʻa Paula: “Mou teungaʻaki ʻa e ongongofua ʻo e ʻofa, anga-ʻofa, anga-fakatōkilalo, anga-vaivai mo e kātaki fuoloa. Mou toutou fekātakiʻaki mo fefakamolemoleʻaki maʻataʻatā, kapau ʻoku maʻu ʻe ha taha ha ʻuhinga ke lāunga ai fekauʻaki mo ha taha. Hangē ko ia naʻe fakamolemoleʻi maʻataʻatā koe ʻe Sihova, ke pehē mo koe foki.”—Kolose 3:12, 13, NW.
ʻOku totonu ke fakatupulekina ʻi he fakatahaʻangá ʻa e faʻahinga anga ʻo e fakakaukau pehē. Pea ʻoku totonu ke fakatupulekina ia tautefito ʻi he vā ʻo e husepānití mo e uaifí ʻi he ʻapi Kalisitiané. ʻE lava ʻe he husepānití ke ne fakahā ʻene ongongofua mo e anga-vaivai ʻaki ʻene fanongo ki he ngaahi fokotuʻu ʻoku fai ʻe hono uaifí. ʻOku totonu ke ne fai ʻa e fakakaukau ki he anga ʻo e vakai ʻa e uaifí ki muʻa peá ne toki fai ha fili ʻoku kaunga ki he fāmilí. ʻOku ʻikai ke ʻulumāngoa ʻa e ngaahi uaifi Kalisitiané. ʻOku faʻa lava ke nau ʻoatu ha ngaahi fokotuʻu ʻaonga ki honau ngaahi husepānití, ʻo hangē ko ia naʻe fai ʻe Sela ki hono husepāniti ko ʻĒpalahamé. (Sēnesi 21:12) ʻI he tafaʻaki ʻe tahá, ʻe ʻikai ke fai ha fakakouna taʻefaituʻunga ʻe he uaifi Kalisitiané ki hono husepānití. Te ne fakahā ʻa ʻene anga-ʻofa mo e fakakaukau anga-fakatōkilalo ʻaki ʻene muimui ki heʻene tatakí mo poupouʻi ʻene ngaahi fili kuo faí, neongo pē ʻi he taimi ʻe niʻihi ʻoku kehe ia mei he meʻa ʻokú ne saiʻia aí.
Ko e husepāniti faituʻungá, ʻokú ne anga-faingofua mo anga-ʻofa ʻo tatau tofu pē mo ha tokotaha ʻo e kau mātuʻá. ʻOku taliangi ki ai ʻe he uaifi anga-ʻofá ʻaki ʻene kaungāongoʻi pea mo e kātaki fuoloa, ʻo ne lāuʻilo ʻa e ngaahi feinga ʻoku fai ʻe he husepānití ke ne fakahoko hono ngaahi fatongiá neongo ʻa e taʻehaohaoá mo e ngaahi mafasia ʻo e moʻuí. ʻI hono fakatupulekina ʻa e faʻahinga anga ʻo e fakakaukau peheé fakatouʻosi ʻe he husepānití mo e uaifí, heʻikai ke hoko ko ha palopalema ʻa e anganofo ʻi ha nofo mali. Ka, ʻe hoko ia ko e matavai ʻo e fiefia, maluʻanga, mo e fiemālie ʻoku tuʻuloa.