Koeʻuhi ʻi he taimi naʻe ʻoatu ai ʻe he Tokotaha-Fakatupu ʻo e faʻahinga ʻo e tangatá ke mali ʻa e ʻuluaki fefiné ki he ʻuluaki tangatá, naʻá Ne fakanofo ʻa e tangatá ke ne hoko ko e ʻulu ʻo hono uaifí pea mo haʻana fānau ʻi he kahaʻú. Naʻe ʻuhinga totonu pē ʻa e meʻá ni. ʻI ha faʻahinga kulupu pē ʻo ha kakai kuo fakatahatahaʻi, ʻe fiemaʻu ha taha ke ne fai ʻa e takí pea ke ne fai ʻa e fili aofangatukú. Fekauʻaki mo e nofo malí, naʻe tuʻutuʻuni ʻe he Tokotaha-Fakatupú “ko e husepaniti ko e ʻulu ʻo e uaifi.”​—ʻEfesō 5:23.

ʻIkai ko ha Tokotaha ʻOku Pule Kakaha

ʻOku totonu ke fēfē ʻa hono ngāueʻaki ʻe he husepānití hono mafaí? ʻAki ʻene muimui ki he faʻifaʻitakiʻanga lelei ʻa e ʻAlo ʻo e ʻOtuá. ʻOku pehē ʻe he Tohitapú: “He ko e husepaniti ko e ʻulu ʻo e uaifi, ʻo hange foki ko Kalaisi ko e ʻulu ʻo e siasi; ʻio ko ia ia ko e fakamoʻui ʻo e sino. ʻA e kau tangata, mou ʻofa ki homou ngaahi uaifi, ʻo hange foki ko Kalaisi ne ne ʻofaʻi ʻa e siasi, ʻo ne liʻoa ʻa ʻEne ʻAfio koeʻuhi ko ia.” (ʻEfesō 5:​23, 25) Naʻe hoko ko ha tāpuaki ki he fakatahaʻangá ʻa hono ngāueʻaki ʻe Sīsū Kalaisi hono tuʻunga-ʻulú. Naʻe ʻikai ko ha tokotaha pule kakaha ia. Naʻe ʻikai te ne ʻai ʻene kau ākongá ke nau ongoʻi ʻoku lōmia pe fakafeʻātungiaʻi kinautolu. Ka ʻi heʻene feangai anga-ʻofa mo kaungāongoʻi mo kinautolú naʻá ne maʻu ai ʻa e ʻapasia ʻa kinautolu kotoa. Ko ha faʻifaʻitakiʻanga lelei ē ke muimui ki ai ʻa e ngaahi husepānití ʻi heʻenau feangai mo honau ngaahi uaifí!

Ka ʻoku ʻi ai ʻa e ngaahi husepāniti, ʻoku ʻikai te nau muimui ki he faʻifaʻitakiʻanga lelei ko ʻení. ʻOku nau ngāue siokita ʻaki honau tuʻunga-ʻulu kuo fokotuʻu ʻe he ʻOtuá, kae ʻikai ki he lelei ʻo honau ngaahi uaifí. ʻOku nau pule ki honau ngaahi uaifí ʻi he anga-kakaha, ʻo kouna ai ke nau anganofo kakato pea ʻikai ke faʻa fakangofuaʻi kinautolu ke nau fai ha ngaahi fili maʻanautolu pē. ʻOku mahino, ko e ngaahi uaifi ʻo e ngaahi husepāniti peheé ʻoku ʻikai ke fiefia ʻa ʻenau moʻuí. Pea ʻoku taʻeʻaonga foki ki ha husepāniti pehē he ʻe ʻikai te ne maʻu ai ʻa e ʻapasia anga-ʻofa ʻa hono uaifí.

ʻOku moʻoni, ʻoku fiemaʻu ʻe he ʻOtuá ha uaifi ke ʻapasia ki he tuʻunga ʻoku maʻu ʻe hono husepānití ʻi he tuʻunga ko e ʻulu ʻo e fāmilí. Ka ʻo kapau ʻoku holi ʻa e husepānití ke ne maʻu ʻa e ʻapasia tupu mei he lotó ʻa e uaifí kiate ia, kuo pau ke ne ngāue ke maʻu ia, pea ko e founga lelei taha ke fai ai iá te ne fatongiaʻaki ʻene ngāue pea fakatupu ʻa e ngaahi ʻulungaanga lelei fakaeʻotua ʻi he tuʻunga ko e ʻulu ʻo e fāmilí.

ʻOku Fakangatangata ʻa e Anganofó

Ko e mafai ʻo e husepānití ki hono uaifí ʻoku ʻikai ke fai fakaʻaufuli ia. ʻI ha ngaahi founga ʻe niʻihi ko e anganofo ʻa e uaifí ʻe fehoanaki ia mo e anganofo ʻa ha tokotaha Kalisitiane ki ha pule fakaemāmani. ʻOku tuʻutuʻuni mai ʻa e ʻOtuá kuo pau “ke anganofo . . . ki he ngaahi pule ʻoku maʻolunga.” (Loma 13:1) Ka ko e anganofo ko ʻení kuo pau ke ʻai ʻo mafamafatatau maʻu pē mo e meʻa ko ia ʻoku fiemaʻu ʻe he ʻOtuá. Naʻe pehē ʻe Sīsū: “ʻAnge kia Sisa ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻa Sisa, pea ki he ʻOtua ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻa e ʻOtua.” (Maʻake 12:17) Kapau ko Sisa (ko e puleʻanga fakaemāmaní) te ne kouna mai ke tau ʻoange kiate ia ʻa e ngaahi meʻa ʻoku ʻa e ʻOtuá, ʻoku tau manatuʻi ʻa e meʻa naʻe leaʻaki ʻe he ʻapositolo ko Pitá: “Oku totonu e mau talagofua ki he Otua i he tagata.”​—Ngāue 5:​29, PM.

ʻE maʻu ʻe he husepānití ʻa e ʻofa mo e ʻapasia ai pē ʻa hono uaifí ʻi heʻene fakahāhā ʻa e ngaahi ʻulungaanga fakaeʻotua ʻo hono ʻulú, ko Sīsū Kalaisi, ʻa ia naʻá ne fekauʻi hono kau muimuí ke nau feʻofaʻaki. (Sione 13:34) Neongo ʻa e tōngofua mo e taʻehaohaoa ʻa ha husepāniti, kapau te ne ngāueʻaki hono mafaí ʻo fehoanaki mo e tuʻunga-ʻulu māʻolunga ange ʻo Kalaisí, te ne ʻai ai ke faingofua ange ke fiefia hono uaifí ke maʻu ia ko hono ʻulu. (1 Kolinitō 11:3) Kapau ʻe fakatupulekina ʻe he uaifí ʻa e ngaahi ʻulungaanga faka-Kalisitiane ko e anga-fakanānā mo e ʻaloʻofa, heʻikai ke faingataʻa kiate ia ke ne anganofo ki hono husepānití.

ʻOku totonu ke fakatupulekina ʻi he fakatahaʻangá ʻa e faʻahinga anga ʻo e fakakaukau pehē. Pea ʻoku totonu ke fakatupulekina ia tautefito ʻi he vā ʻo e husepānití mo e uaifí ʻi he ʻapi Kalisitiané. ʻE lava ʻe he husepānití ke ne fakahā ʻene ongongofua mo e anga-vaivai ʻaki ʻene fanongo ki he ngaahi fokotuʻu ʻoku fai ʻe hono uaifí. ʻOku totonu ke ne fai ʻa e fakakaukau ki he anga ʻo e vakai ʻa e uaifí ki muʻa peá ne toki fai ha fili ʻoku kaunga ki he fāmilí. ʻOku ʻikai ke ʻulumāngoa ʻa e ngaahi uaifi Kalisitiané. ʻOku faʻa lava ke nau ʻoatu ha ngaahi fokotuʻu ʻaonga ki honau ngaahi husepānití, ʻo hangē ko ia naʻe fai ʻe Sela ki hono husepāniti ko ʻĒpalahamé. (Sēnesi 21:12) ʻI he tafaʻaki ʻe tahá, ʻe ʻikai ke fai ha fakakouna taʻefaituʻunga ʻe he uaifi Kalisitiané ki hono husepānití. Te ne fakahā ʻa ʻene anga-ʻofa mo e fakakaukau anga-fakatōkilalo ʻaki ʻene muimui ki heʻene tatakí mo poupouʻi ʻene ngaahi fili kuo faí, neongo pē ʻi he taimi ʻe niʻihi ʻoku kehe ia mei he meʻa ʻokú ne saiʻia aí.

Ko e husepāniti faituʻungá, ʻokú ne anga-faingofua mo anga-ʻofa ʻo tatau tofu pē mo ha tokotaha ʻo e kau mātuʻá. ʻOku taliangi ki ai ʻe he uaifi anga-ʻofá ʻaki ʻene kaungāongoʻi pea mo e kātaki fuoloa, ʻo ne lāuʻilo ʻa e ngaahi feinga ʻoku fai ʻe he husepānití ke ne fakahoko hono ngaahi fatongiá neongo ʻa e taʻehaohaoá mo e ngaahi mafasia ʻo e moʻuí. ʻI hono fakatupulekina ʻa e faʻahinga anga ʻo e fakakaukau peheé fakatouʻosi ʻe he husepānití mo e uaifí, heʻikai ke hoko ko ha palopalema ʻa e anganofo ʻi ha nofo mali. Ka, ʻe hoko ia ko e matavai ʻo e fiefia, maluʻanga, mo e fiemālie ʻoku tuʻuloa.